Is this creepy?

[Cluelessman]

A woman I have known for a year plus online is now in my country. We have met a few times and she wanted more but my economic situation was difficult. We message each other every day. I'm helping her find accommodation. She hasn't replied today. I'm worried about her safety. She mighy have been viewing rooms etc...

If she's got someone I don't care. I'm not jealous. I kind of just care about her well being.

If I contact some friends and a cousin of hers here in Manchester via Instagram is it ok? They lived with her here but she moved to a hostel...

She never introduced me to them but they appeared as Instagram suggestions and I recognised the names she mentioned...

Or is it the act of a stalker...

Her phone is still off....

I’d give it at least a couple more days tbh. This all sounds a bit weird. I’m thinking she doesn’t want to contact you for some reason, you barely know her, it’s only been a day or two, and contacting her insta friends is creepy af

It’s been a day
yes it’s creepy

Thanks for your reply... Well I did it anyway.. To be honest I'm tough enough to take creepy on the chin lol...

. I enquired here just to get women's opinions but I told her not to view accommodation alone. Lots of fraudulent adverts and perverts.

It’s not about you being tough enough to take it on the chin
it’s about you scaring her.

you came here for advice, ignored it, talked about how she’d defied you, then thought it was just about you and your feelings. So that says a lot

she doesn’t have to do what you say. You also said she ‘might’ have been viewing. You don’t even know if that’s where she was today.

You are creepy and I predict she will block you. Contacting people on her Instagram you don’t know because she hasn’t given you attention in a day? Grow up.

Yes I get your perspective. That's why I wanted to anonymously ask women here.

Problem is bad things can happen in minutes. I've seen many bad things in my life on the streets over the years and it makes you a bit paranoid.

Wow the assumptions.

You've got it all wrong. I don't give a * about attention. I am worried she has been viewing flats alone and it could be a scam or dangerous.

I told to go with her friends or wait for me next week!

One thing I'm not falling for is to live with her as she has begged me as I don't like this crap.

Don't assume. I didn't ignore your advice.

I wrote the message and deleted it after your advice.

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I just hate the idea of anything bad happening to her that's all. Getting mugged, or worse etc...

OK I'm out of here.

There's no respect on this forum.

I've got a good heart but to you I'm just a creep 😞

I am worried she has been viewing flats alone

I told to go with her friends or wait for me next week!

Is she an actual child? Are you her Dad?

Probably my ptsd and depression hasnt helped.

Goodnight.

The thing is, even if something has happened to her, I can't see that there is anything you can do.

I'm sorry, you are that creep who does this kind of thing, you just proved it by not holding back despite being advised to. It's OK though, as now she knows how creepy you are.
But then there's 2 sides to everything, and as you say, you can't afford to date her, sounds like she wants someone who will spend money on her, put a roof over her head etc. but realised that's not you - she'll be disappointed, that's why she's gone awol, you are not of economic use to her.

Yep creepy.

It's nice of you to worry about her, but surely you're not her next of kin if you've only met a couple of times - other people closer to her will be looking out for her.

Problem is bad things can happen in minutes.

A) believe me women know that very well
B) no texting of friends will prevent the bad thing happening
C) you being an overly involved man with no boundaries could very well be the bad thing (your overreaction to criticism on here really looks that way)

It’s great you care about her enough to be concerned, but I don’t think you should have contacted a random relative to check on her. Not sure how she will feel about it.

@Cluelessman

I believe you do really care about her.

But don't contact her family for now.

Just wait awhile and totally why your worried.

Your not a creep but you seem to be smothering her a bit. Maybe she wants some space from you.

Give her that for now.

Is this creepy?

Yes.

Youre all disrespectful, I’m out of here.

goid luck, OP.

Good grief, I think OP is a nice reminder to all of us women here that men can turn so so quickly, especially the self-proclaimed nice guys.

That was actually quite a worrying thread. How quickly did that go south?

Just goes to show how quickly people can get defensive and turn.

Don't bother asking for advice here OP, there are so many man haters it's unreal.

You can flounce off with OP if you'd like. The rest of the internet hates women so you'll enjoy it more.

Getting incel vibes

You waited 13 minutes.. thats very scary. Should work on impulse control, thats quite extreme and dramatic.

Exactly! He is the childlike, overbearing, entitled man following her every move and showing zero respect for normal boundaries – precisely the worrying individual you hope not to meet.

Reminds me of the ‘M’lady’ sketch on Inside Amy Schumer, but in this case actually quite sinister. Contacting people on her Insta he doesn’t know? 😑

Classic 'Incel Dressed up as a Nice Guy'