He's possibly impregnated someone

[Luciferthethird]

I started dating someone who I've known for years, everything was going well. Then he let me know someone he was dating before messaged him to say she's pregnant, she's not sure who the father is doesn't think it's the man I've been dating but can't be sure.

It was all so new, so of course now I've been put on the back burner. I just feel like this always happens to me, there's always some obstacle in the way always something that comes up.

She's booked in for a scan to check dates this weekend he's going with her.

Not sure what I want from this post, I suppose I just need to vent a little and hopefully get some advice.

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Why is this guy telling you about some other woman’s periods?
why was he having unprotected sex with some woman who you’re both completely disrespecting and defaming the character of. Stop talking about how you think the real father doesn’t want the baby, and she’s the sort that’s going to lie about dates. He thought enough of her to have sex with her with no condom, so it’s outrageous now that you both are looking down on her and being rude.

Also the guy you’re dating maybe has an unexpected child, this is huge for him, yet you’re only bothered about yourself, so how much can you actually care about him? you barely know him.
and Ofc he should prioritise his potential baby over you
get a grip

Too much drama already.

Personally I’d cut my losses.

That’s good that you have stepped back. How are you feeling about it all?

Just to let you known they can’t date the conception at the scan, they can only say that the baby seems too be about X weeks.

They go by size and by stages of development, but its an art and not a hard science as obv babies grow at slightly different rates.

As you get further and further along in the pregnancy, it becomes less accurate. So a scan at 7 weeks will be better than a 20 week scan.

My friend didn't know that she was pregnant until what she thought was about 29- 30 weeks, that’s what the doctors said when they scanned her. But she gave birth 4 weeks later to a full term baby so she was obviously further on than they thought.

If there was only one or two weeks between having sex with two different men they wont be able to tell which one might be the father from the scan.

I agree

I took the news poorly
I've repeated what I've been told.
To be fair, he did scold me for being mean about her.

As far as I'm concerned I'm done with it all. He did the right thing in all this and I'm just on the outside being bitter.

I'm sure once the baby is born if there are still doubts they'll do a DNA test.

That's how I feel about it.

I have been pregnant 4 times and datings where all over the place in half my pregnancies.

My oldests date of birth changed 4 times during pregnancy moving from december through to february... he was born on new year and was apparently a preemie by over a month but came out nearly 8lb and needed no NICU or anything.

My second was clomid baby so ovulation tracked and a MMC loss the scans insisted I was only 6 weeks (utterly impossible) with no baby when baby died, this was agreed in 3 confirmation of loss scans by 3 different hospitals.

I was induced with medication and birthed a complete baby the length of my thumb with arms/hands, legs/feet, eyes, ears, no 'tail' etc... litrally impossible to have been 6 weeks when baby passed (6 weeks is just a fetal pole mm long). A 6 week MMC would have just absorbed in the month + leading up to the 12 week scan so clearly was wrong given that they could see something (which they claimed was just an empty sack).

My 3rd was IVF so dates known for fact (although a sonographer gave me different dates before finding out it was IVF and he was definately wrong), induced a few week early due to complication and a NICU stay.

My 4th who knows, I had no idea of dates given the pregnancy was a suprise (given my infertility) discoved by accident during other medical testing, baby was full term according to dates but definately smaller than my other 2 who came early.

Honestly I wouldn't put a massive amount of faith into ultrasound dates, they really arent accurate at all they are just a best guess ball park based on measurements that might not be accurate due to position or distortion.