Please can you help. I have been seeing someone for two months, but there have been lots of problems, too long and boring to go into now. We have a connection and genuinely like and get on with each other but he is fundamentally avoidant of intimacy and recently has not called me when he said he was going to several times, especially as I’ve been trying to address and understand what is going on.
he insists we use the messaging app WhatsApp and he has put a disappearing messages function on it after 8 hours. After him not calling me back for the third time he said he would yesterday I sent a message basically saying I felt I couldn’t get through to him and it was painful to me and I didn’t think we should carry on but I felt we had a good connection and could hopefully be friends one day etc. I waited and waited to see if he had read it but he hadn’t. I checked his last seen and he was offline and last seen at 20.40 and I had sent the signal message at 22.00.
overnight the message has disappeared and chances are (due to last seen) he has still not read it. I don’t want to appear again like I am asking him to call me. I am wondering if I should just leave it and block him or I should send yet another message?