My DH has consistently lied and walked out throughout our 16 year relationship.
We have 2 children and he even did this while he had access to his other child leaving me with him too. And my two older ones back then.
He controls the income because he's "the worker" (I worked for him and did some other work out of the home) he doesn't give me a wage but also takes the working tax credits. He refuses to pay any bills but does pay the car insurance but also has primary control over the car.
He has a problem with weed and also lies about his usage. Some hints of infidelity, finding messages that he claims were catfishing etc and that he consoles other women and discusses our problems also with other women but I have all kinds of rules for who I can and can't talk to and when.
After all these years, I told him I couldn't trust him anymore and couldn't sleep with him. He is very sexually manipulative and will give me the silent treatment for not putting out. And he threatens/warns to go with other women because I don't satisfy him.
Recently he took screen shots from a private video we made on his request, and put a paid advert online without my knowledge advertising me to other men.
He took it as far as to give out his number and our location and had been intimately messaging a number of men about me.
I was furious and told him it was disgusting to do that for his own entertainment.
He has blamed me for not "lighting his fire" and laughed at me saying "god forbid I have any excitement.
I think this is absolutely disgusting, and it's only a fraction of what he's been doing over the years.
I want him to leave, AIBU