Hi,
Feeling utterly down about the dating scene. Ended a 23 year marriage two years ago (dead in the water) and thought I’d find someone before now. My marriage ended as I hit menopause and my head was turned (no bloody wonder looking back though).
Joined a couple of dating sites about 9 months ago and had a few first dates. We either didn’t connect, they wanted a quickie (and would clearly have done a runner afterwards) or messages just filtered out and I was unmatched by them. One guy chatted to me for 4 months and we went away together (in separate hotels although did dtd whilst away - he struggled with ED I think) and we had a lovely time and really saw potential although I found him difficult to get conversation out of at times. He was lovely though and very polite/intelligent but had never married and had no kids. Seemed to lack emotional connection and didn’t like commitment even though he regretted not finding the one and settling down. Plus, he felt the 35 miles between us was a barrier. I asked him straight out after a few days of silence after our trip what his intentions were and he just said he had had doubts about me!! Not sure why as I’m attractive (so I’m told by men at work), intelligent, passionate and lovely (blowing my own trumpet but I really am)!! I’m also at senior level in my career and financially sound. No word from the guy I went away with since the chat! He even said he really enjoyed being away with me!!
Please tell me there are success stories out there for us old folk! I’m 50 but a young 50 . I am feeling fed up after living in a sexless and loveless marriage for so long and now alone all the time. All of my siblings and parents are RIP. My eldest lives with his dad and my youngest lives in her room and doesn’t speak to me much!
What am I doing wrong? Btw- I swipe left on most men!
Eldest will be flying the nest next year and youngest has plans to join the RAF at 18 (3 years time). I’m going to be a sad cat lady aren’t I? I don’t have a cat…yet!!!