I’ve got a funeral to go to this month. The man involved has died just before a l milestone birthday of an alcohol related disease.
He knew my DB and was his best friend (with 2 other best friends) in his teens/early to mid twenties but they lost touch over time and 2 of them have moved abroad. I caught up with this man and other mutual friends about 7-8 years ago at a local restaurant but my brother didn’t go.
My brother’s ex-SO when he was that she was at the meal and will be at the funeral along with my ex best friend from childhood who dated this man in our early to mid 20s. My ex best friend I cut contact with in my mid 20s but we are sort of in contact now. My brother’s teenage girlfriend and another ex best friend of mine (we broke our friendship at 40, but she was always dramatic and still likes drama).
I saw DB today and he said he probably wouldn’t go to the funeral due to people from the past (mostly both his exes!) and I’m thinking along the same lines! I don’t want to open up old wounds, don’t trust them not to cause drama and certainly don’t want to go to a wake afterwards with them! I last saw this friend in the street when he visited my local area to see his dad for his birthday and we had the odd message on FB but nothing else.
Has anyone got any experience of this? Views?