Just had a phone call from the police after my ex reported me, wtf?!

[Lucia9513]

Hi!
Please read my previous post for more context so I’m not repeating myself too much!

Basically I was really hurt by my ex leaving me back in August, and after we broke up he told me never to contact him or he’d report it to the police as harassment. This was completely unprovoked and quite shocking to me. Mn’ers and others close to me told me he probably had an other woman and was saying this so that I would keep my distance.

He then messaged me a couple of weeks ago asking how I was, and stupidly I text back and we were talking and getting on for a couple of weeks. That was until I told him how hurt I still am about the way I was treated by him - his response was to immediately block me. I called him from a withheld number, which I know I shouldn’t have done, but I was upset and all I did was ask him why he’d blocked me and what the deal was. In response, once again he told me not to contact him or he’ll call the police. Of course, I did not contact him again and don’t intend to ever again. This happened on Monday.

I’ve just now received a phone call from the police to tell me that my ex called them on Monday night, he told them I was making him anxious and he felt harassed by my call as he had blocked me already. The police officer told me not to contact him again, which is fine lol. I already haven’t contacted him again.

My question to everyone is, what is wrong with some men? What did I do to deserve this 😶 do you think he has some mental issues? Do you think it’s a control thing? I am just so confused and hurt and blindsided

File a counter report.

This.

It’ll be a work phone number they give you, not their personal number.

I wouldn’t worry if it was real or fake tbh, you won’t fall for it again, so you won’t need to ever need to call him again 🤷‍♀️

Same thing happened to me except I am in Canada. I believe it was a friend but I had them reach out twice. Both warning because I text him a few weeks later to release the pain and wish him well and they told me I will be charged next. I do find it odd that they called from their cell phone AND later I called back (blocked my number)because I had a question and they just answered the phone as “hello!”

youd think if he wanted no contact he would have deleted my number, chat thread, blocked me and block on WhatsApp. on iPhones if you can still see their focus status they haven’t deleted the chat and number.

I personally feel it’s a control thing. My ex is a man of status and feels he has power because his money.

OP don’t have any further contact if he calls or messages again. It sounds like he’s using you for narcissistic supply. He’s feeding off of it.

Your ex is clearly a headcase.

Who calls the police over one phone call? Can understand if it's a threatening call but a hey why d'yoi block me call, who does this?

I am being kind here OP, what a fucking wet blanket you have just got rid of for the second time.

Don't look back.

As a UK police officer I can confirm that it's highly likely a PC would use their work issue mobile to make this kind of call. By your own admission you carried on calling him after he told you to stop. If your account is accurate and it was just the once then the offence of harassment would not be made out (needs a course of conduct of 2 or more instances) and the likely outcome would indeed be that you would be given WOA. In low risk cases like this, combined with demand being so high and police resources so low, it is possible the WOA would be given by telephone.

Yes, because it is a serious offence to impersonate a police officer.

The police do call from mobile numbers.
The voicemail will state the officers name and they won’t answer unless on shift.

They do. It’s obviously not their personal number they give out but they do text from their work numbers.