I’ve realised over the last couple of years that I’ve been falling out of love with my husband. I’ve not had one tangible reason to leave him, mostly that my feelings have changed. Like many people (after reading so many threads of people in similar situations) my thoughts have been all over the place, wondering if leaving him would be the best decision. I’m currently having a couple of counselling sessions, onto my 3rd next week, and I think I’ve finally come to the conclusion that I “settled” for him when we first got together 22 years ago. I now feel he’s more like a friend, rather than a lover, and the physical attraction has gone. I feel I’m 99% certain that I’m going to leave him, but it’s now the timing, as we have a 9yro DS and although it’s not that close to Christmas, I’m wondering if it’s best waiting till after Christmas. I know there’s upside’s and downsides to both doing it before or after, but can anyone share their stories of separation leading upto Christmas, or if you waited.
my husband doesn’t know I have been feeling like this, so I think as soon as I tell him, he’ll want to separate, as I can’t see him wanting to live in the same house as me.