Hi wise mumsnetters - I hope you can advise me.
I'm single, mid 50s, and was not looking for a relationship, but I met this man I thought was gorgeous at a weekend event and he had a big impact on me.
We talked all night, he was a similar age and said he was widowed. We seemed to have a lot in common. Except I thought such a good looking guy would have younger, better looking women than me pursuing him. I'm a stone overweight and past my best! I think he realised I fancied him (another bloke I got talking to briefly said it was obvious, lol).
When he went to the gents, his mate told me he was "a lovely bloke who had been through a tough time".
We all left the event late and he asked me if I wanted to go on somewhere for a drink and without thinking it through I agreed.
He lives in another city and was supposed to stay with his friends (an hour west of London), but they wanted to go home so he waved them goodbye. But on the way to get the last tube I realised the implications as I lived the same distance east of the city and I stupidly said, 'how will you get back... are you wanting to stay at my place?'
He said, 'It's up to you'. and I felt awkward. I said jokingly, 'I need to tell you that I'm not up for the horizontal folk dance, and I just don't want to waste your time'. (One-night stands aren't my thing.)
I asked how he would get back to his mates' and he said by taxi (which I knew would cost £££) but I said - ' maybe it's sensible to go back with them'. He said OK, "I'll see you again", there was a long, lingering look between us and he pecked me on the lips, twice, and turned and ran back to catch his pals.
He didn't ask for my number. The event we were at happens every couple of months and his friends are the organisers, and I had messaged them for info before the event.
My RL friend thinks I should "give him a nudge" by messaging the organiser to say how much I enjoyed the event, and that I really enjoyed meeting his friend, think he's a lovely guy and it's a shame we didn't exchange numbers. (That's it, nothing more.)
Would this be too forward or desperate? I am wondering if he has a partner in his home town, or didn't like me enough, or both.
Should I do as my friend suggests or forget him? I don't want to pursue someone not interested or attached. Thanks for reading if you got this far!