33. My long-term boyfriend just broke up with me.

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I don't know how to go on.

I'm so sorry. We are here to hold your hand.

So sorry OP, would it help to tell us what happened?

Sorry to hear that. We're here if you want to talk x

•I can guarantee you won’t always feel so bad •There’s a very good chance that if you want to, you’ll find someone better and look at today as a blessing What’s your plan for the rest of the day?

Of course you can go on!

You loved before him and you will live after him.

Lick wounds and seek a partner proactively

Things will be good but allow yourself to feel the pain and grieve for what you have lost

but 33 is still young and things will be good

The feelings of sorrow and despair will pass.
It may take a while.

Allow yourself time to mourn the future you envisaged.

He was the best man I ever met. The one he treated me the best. I've been through breakups so many times and so much grief and this one has brought me to my knees. I feel like im not deserving of love.

I dont know how to do this again. I've been through so much grief and this one is the absolute worst.

I'm so sorry OP.

Are you wanting to share what happened/why?

How?

What happened?

it’s bloody hard to have a relationship end, but generally good relationships don’t just end - it could be you didn’t realise it wasn’t a good relationship- and you will find a better fit for you.

do you have dcs?

I'm not meaning to be cagey sorry. I had not long ended something serious before we met. I fell head over heels for him. And he truly is the best guy I've ever know. He gave me hope again after being treated terribly. He said some of my behaviours from how I've treated him (having a wall up) caused his feelings to change for me.

No children. Just a ltr. But we spoke of marriage kids and all the rest.

I'm so sorry.

Don't seek a new partner just yet.

What were the good and not so good parts of it all? Maybe he wasn't all you thought?

It was on my side. He really was a good man. I think I brought some residual stuff into the relationship which he could no longer deal with but I dont understand why he didn't want tonwork it through.

Maybe he didn't know how it could be worked through or if you were willing?

There's also the possibility that his commitment wasn't everything it could have been and ultimately this was a useful reason.

Can you get some counseling to work through it yourself?

I think ill need to as I'm feeling really suicidal

Can you make yourself a hot sweet drink and call someone in rl? You can also go to a and e if you feel you're not safe.

Make a gp appointment as an emergency. You can also call the Samaritans or keep talking here.

Its very raw still .Sometimes when we meet someone new very soon after a RL ends ,being on the rebound .You have had a good RL .Sometimes it works out ,Sometimes not.Be kind to yourself and lean on your friends and family . Its better it ends before you have DC although maybe doesnt feel like that right now.Sending hugs to you

I'm scared I won't mean a man as good as him. He was literally the first.

I promise this will pass

Surround yourself with good friends , family , wine and chocolate, whatever makes you happy

I promise this will pass ❤️

Think of it this way - if you fell and broke your leg, it wouldn't help to be told 'just get up and walk, you'll be fine' - no, you need to give yourself time to heal and to understand that the pain will fade as you do so. Just believe that you will feel better, and you will recover.

I am so sorry you're going through this, I remember what it feels like - 42 years ago someone broke my heart - but I am now very happily married, although still FaceBook friends with my ex - both our lives have turned out well in the end, and I'm happy for him (and me!).

Please believe people when they say you'll feel better, and just give it time.

I’ve been there and it nearly tore me apart (I also
Worked in the sane office so had to see him every day and everyone knew). I changed jobs and it took me 3 years to move on but I’ve been with my husband for 15 years. I now see that things end and it hurts but there will always be something else. Throw yourself into a hobby to take your mind off it. Don’t contact him but leave the door open.