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Husband made a booking with escort.

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Indoorvoicesbluey · 21/10/2022 07:50

been together 10 years and have 3 children.

dh stopped wanting sex or anything at the start of the first lock down due to Dc always there/stress. It went longer and longer without with and now we’ve had sex once this year. I have cried to him begging for some love or attention/sex or for him to tell me what Iv done wrong/what can I do to help. He claims he has no sex drive. He gets upset about it.

a friend who is an escort messaged me on Wednesday saying there’s an app called private eye where escorts can search people’s numbers and she was telling me about some of her clients and the reports on there. I jokingly said check dhs number thinking absolutely nothing of it.

He has a warning for timewaster.. he booked a 5pm booking and never turned up or confirmed apparently.

he booked this booking last year while my dad was dying in hospital.

he’s claiming he couldn’t go through with ir and the reason he booked ir was to see if there was actually something wrong with him as to why he doesn’t want sex with me. He got emotional over telling me he’s worried something is wrong 🙄.

iv cried, told him I can never forgive him.

its more that he did ir when I needed him. Apparently he booked it on his break at work so how many other times has he done ir? Or actually gone through with it? He swears he never has.

im so hurt. I would never ever ever expect him to do that to me.

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TenPenceMix · 21/10/2022 07:52

LTB

KangarooKenny · 21/10/2022 07:54

Firstly, he won’t admit to anything so you need an STI check.
Secondly, kick his dirty arse out of the door.
Thirdly, don’t ever believe a word he says.

girlmom21 · 21/10/2022 07:55

He booked it. He thought about it enough that he went to a proper company. If he had no sex drive he wouldn't do that.

It's not that he was seeing if you're the problem. That's a nasty bastard excuse. He wanted sex without the emotion or affection.

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Indoorvoicesbluey · 21/10/2022 07:57

Iv recently had an sti check and all clear. I like to get them regularly.

i know.

we are currently on holiday so can’t even have a proper discussion.

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KangarooKenny · 21/10/2022 07:58

Why would you need regular STI checks if you’re in a monogamous relationship ?

Realityloom · 21/10/2022 08:00

Too late now but I wouldn't of rushed to tell him because what truth have you got?

Women need to gather themselves first. What was your sex life like before? If he booked an escort at a time like that it's likely he has done so before sorry OP. Do you work?

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Indoorvoicesbluey · 21/10/2022 08:01

Because Ite something Iv done all my adult life. Iv had herpes and when I caught it many many many years avo it was promise I made to myself that I will be regularly checked even throughout my marriage.

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Indoorvoicesbluey · 21/10/2022 08:02

I do work, yes.

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PorkPieAndAPickledOnion · 21/10/2022 08:04

Is there more background to this? The majority of women don’t have friends who do sex work and chat about it with them on their phones. I don’t know any women in decade-long relationships who get regular STI checks, unless there’s been recent infidelity. And why would you even think to ask your friend to check your husband’s number? Does he have a track record?

Realityloom · 21/10/2022 08:17

PorkPieAndAPickledOnion · 21/10/2022 08:04

Is there more background to this? The majority of women don’t have friends who do sex work and chat about it with them on their phones. I don’t know any women in decade-long relationships who get regular STI checks, unless there’s been recent infidelity. And why would you even think to ask your friend to check your husband’s number? Does he have a track record?

This

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Indoorvoicesbluey · 21/10/2022 08:20

He has absolutely no track record. That’s the thing that’s shocked me the most.

you have no idea about women’s sexual health, irs private. You have no idea if Iv had past trauma that makes me do it.

my friend is mt best friend and she’s been a SW for a few months, she’s only just found out about the Ap she said and was shocked at some of the people she had seen feedback. We talk multiple times a day, I don’t think it’s weird to talk about it lol

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Hintofreality · 21/10/2022 08:24

Sorry, whilst your Dad was dying, your husband was arranging to pay some woman to stick his cock in her.
Unforgivable! Make an appointment to see a solicitor and get shut of the bastard.

Cheminaufaules · 21/10/2022 10:18

Have you tried asking the sad loser how he's going to feel in the future about his DC knowing that their father has communicated with prostitutes?

Pikachu2000 · 21/10/2022 11:00

What is the name for the app? Is that even a real thing?

ShahRukhKhan · 21/10/2022 11:05

@Pikachu2000 Yes it is crazy, there are review sites for sex work and to read them is truly shocking. These women are reviewed like they were equipment. One I remember strongly was 'she didn't seem into it, I thought she might have been trafficked but I did it anyway'.

dreamingbohemian · 21/10/2022 11:13

If he was that worried about his lack of sex drive he could have booked a therapist instead of a sex worker

I hope you dump his ass

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Indoorvoicesbluey · 21/10/2022 11:13

It’s called client eye.

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Crikeyalmighty · 21/10/2022 12:04

Your friend could make a mint setting up a discrete sideline checking numbers for people!!

You have to be an SW who advertises to use that app.

Crikeyalmighty · 21/10/2022 12:05

In fact I would dump the H and go into business with her doing this!!!

ShouldntHaveBeenSoHasty · 21/10/2022 12:10

@Crikeyalmighty please don’t encourage this. These apps are long overdue and go a long way at helping to keep sex workers safe. If clients are concerned they may be added to these lists then desperate women will find a way to accommodate them.

Crikeyalmighty · 21/10/2022 12:21

@ShouldntHaveBeenSoHasty Yes you are probably correct - !

Bookworm20 · 21/10/2022 14:47

dreamingbohemian · 21/10/2022 11:13

If he was that worried about his lack of sex drive he could have booked a therapist instead of a sex worker

I hope you dump his ass

This. his first thought if he had a problem, was seeing a medical professional or therapist. Not a fucking prostitute.

What kind of thought processes has he got in his head where he thought this was on any level a good idea. None, thats how many. he knew exactly what he was doing and how it would hurt you and he went and did it anyway.
That is unforgivable for me. He'd be out. Immediately. Wouldn't care what else he had to say on the matter because it would be as much bullshit as his first response to you was.

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Indoorvoicesbluey · 21/10/2022 16:15

He doesn’t seem to think he’s done anything wrong as he didn’t do it. He said “well at least you have something to bring up forever for the rest of our lives now”.

iv spent years crying to him asking for love and attention or to tell me he doesn’t fancy me but nothing.

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girlmom21 · 21/10/2022 16:31

Tell him he doesn't need to worry about you bringing it up for the rest of your lives as once the LO turns 18 you don't need any more contact with him. Prick.

Notbeinfunnehbut · 21/10/2022 16:45

I bet a lot of people could use that app to see if their other half’s are cheating

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