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Am I in the wrong? (would go on AIBU but feeling a bit to shaky for the straight talking there)

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Doingdoingdont · 15/10/2022 21:53

This seems so petty typing it up sorry in advance if it's long but I don't want to miss details .

Tonight ordered a takeaway, only had £50 note in the house (which I got in a bday card in summer this year) so specifically called the shop to ask if driver would accept this as DH said they wouldn't take 50, girl said no problem so I placed the order. Waited ages, when driver turned up with food he refused the £50 as it is not a plastic note, now never usually seeing/using a £50 note I didn't even think of this. Embarrassing, but no big deal, except I didn't answer the door it was DH. He is so angry, saying I made him answer the door deliberately as I was "fly as fuck" and that he told me they wouldn't take it as it was paper but he didn't he told me that they wouldn't take a £50, he said nothing about plastic notes. He was in a rage telling me I never admit I'm wrong when I tried to explain I had checked with the takeaway. He was so viscous and keeps going on and on about it. He is so angry. I came upstairs to stay away from him so the DCs don't see me upset which he says is me making him the bad guy.

He says the shop will bill us now so I phoned to explain and apologise but the owner answered and was really belligerent (I can see his point he has sent out an order only to have to take it back) but he was so horrible and told me I was "stupid" for not mentioning it was a paper note and no one takes them now. For the record DC got a similar £50 about the same time from the same person and spent it in a shop not long ago.

I feel so stupid.

OP posts:
caroleanboneparte · 17/10/2022 19:40

You have an abusive husband.

The incident is incidental.

How often does he shout at you?

What are your dcs exposed to?

SallyWD · 17/10/2022 19:48

So they've only stopped accepting paper £50 notes a few weeks ago? I wouldn't have known this either. You did all you could, you phoned the take away to check. The owner should have checked it was a plastic note in the phone given it's such a recent change. Both your husband and the take away owner are being absolutely horrible! I'd never treat anyone the way they're treating you. You weren't stupid in the slightest.

Herejustforthisone · 17/10/2022 20:41

Discovereads · 15/10/2022 23:21

Yes I know, but she didn’t tell them it was a paper £50 note which is not legal currency. It’s the same as having £50 in Monopoly money. The takeaway didn’t tell her that they’d accept currency that isn’t legal. It’s her mistake.

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Reaching much? You always have to lay onto an OP don’t you?

Ofcourseshecan · 17/10/2022 22:35

BCBird · 15/10/2022 21:58

It seems to me that the shop owner and your not so darling partner are being ass*roles. Anyone can make a mistake. I.would not tolerate simeone bring belligerent nor callin me stupid. Take care

I agree. But your husband is far worse than the shopkeeper, who basically had an order refused. Your husband sounds like a foulmouthed bully. I would not want him around me or my children.

Readaboutyourself · 17/10/2022 22:40

I wouldn’t have known that either OP.

And regardless of the reason, your OH should never treat you this way,

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