Is it just me ?

[Angelica122345]

Partner went out on a week night said he was going out with people from work . He came back at 1:00 am . When I asked him which places he went to , he went bright red in the face

Why would someone go red in the face ? Is that when they are lying

Often but not always. Some people go red if they feel 'under the spotlight'.

Okay he’s been going to the gym every day . Buying new shoes etc

How dare he.

Dump him

To be honest, if the trust isn't there, it's for the best anyway. For both of you

Do u think it’s me thinking things ? He comes back and says he got chatting to a woman at the gym who was really nice

You could be adding 2 and 2 and making 5 @Angelica122345 but looking at the bigger picture, are there any other signs? Does he normally tell you if he's chatted to a nice person when he's out without you?

No just recently he said he spoke to a woman she was really nice she’s a beautician . Then the other day he said he met two really nice ladies . He also said he saw a woman at the gym and thought she looks shaggable. I didn’t react to it . But it does make me feel insecure

I mean I couldn’t imagine my dad saying stuff like that to my mum at all as it would upset her.

Yes, it's just you. Just your opinion, and your feelings.

Does that mean it's not worth taking into consideration?

Drip, drip, drip. If you don't trust him the relationship isn't sustainable

He's saying women look shaggable and people think that's your fault?

If this is a real thread then get your finances sorted as I think you're in for a rocky ride.

No, it's not just you. He's taking the piss, and winding you up, trying to make you feel insecure in the relationship.

How long have you been together?

Been together for 5 years . But recently things haven’t been great . Mentioning things about other women , saying they look great , also saying one of the mums at the school looks great. He makes a point of smiling at he in front of me , he said she looks great and has lost lots of weight saying I should ask her for tips

He’s being a piece of shit, is either betraying you or gearing up to. And you shouldn’t have to live like this.

It’s not what loving partners do or say. At all.

I remember your previous posts about your partner being a knob to you because you couldn't ice skate. Why are you still with this dickhead?

Wow what a peach, a real keeper...NOT.

Get rid asap before your self esteem takes a nose dive.

Is this for real? Why on earth are you with this prick?

Yes it is for real I feel very stuck at the moment

this is what you say to him OP, “on you go and get them then, they can have you” and then you dump his ass, because he is pathetic.

he's a CUTN get rid !!!

Do u have kids together? If no then RUN

He also said he saw a woman at the gym and thought she looks shaggable

I would end my relationship if my DP spoke to me like that.

How can we help you feel less stuck? You are worth more than this.

A cutn? Just say the word, we're not children.

OP he's deliberately demeaning you. Dump him, you'll be much happier once you're over him.

Thank you for your messages . I know this is not right. My dad wouldn’t talk to my mother like it