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How do you normally bring up the possibility of having sex with a new partner?

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CuriousInitiator · 10/10/2022 14:24

I've recently started seeing a man who I met through a dating site. I got divorced in early 2021 and I haven't dated anyone since leaving my ex. I decided to tentatively enter the world of online dating because, to put it bluntly, I've been getting a bit frustrated. I found a man who interested me and there seems to be a great deal of chemistry and mutual attraction between us. I've only had one date with him so far and it went quite well. Conversation flowed smoothly. At the risk of sounding like an overly-excited teenager (I'm 42, he is 36), I haven't been able to stop thinking about him since meeting him. There has been flirty messaging going on between us. I would like to invite him over to my house. I haven't discussed the idea of sex yet, and I'm wondering how to bring it up. I basically want him to know I'm up for having sex, and finding out if he feels the same way, without seeming too full-on or pressuring him. Also, I'm not saying it needs to follow a script, but if you do invite someone over, what would be the norm? Would you normally discuss sex before that point? Do you think a second date is too soon to be having sex? I'm a bit clueless about etiquette as I haven't dated or been intimate with a new partner for so long.

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whoknew123 · 17/10/2022 16:03

Just go the bathroom, come back naked, jump on his face and ride him like a grand national winner. He'll soon give you a clue whether he wants to continue or otherwise X

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 17/10/2022 16:04

CuriousInitiator · 10/10/2022 15:13

On my profile I just put that I am looking for a bit of casual fun. On his, he says he is "looking to meet someone and seeing where it leads".

Yeah, you don't need to discuss anything 😂

BuryingAcorns · 17/10/2022 16:05

Just see how it goes. But be prepared never to hear fromhim again. Casual fun often means ONS to men. Which is fine if you are fine with it too.

ScrollingLeaves · 25/11/2022 11:20

DeliaTookATumble· 10/10/2022 17:16
Just to say, inviting someone to your home does not in any way open up the likelihood of sex. It says nothing except you have invited someone to your home.

That is supposedly the case. The responses on this thread show
how, in practice, inviting someone home may well be seen as an unspoken code for ‘come back for sex’.

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