Is this enough to accuse of taking cocaine?

[Marmitelover93]

My partner came home last night after being at his friends for a couple of hours. He told me they had Chinese food (and sent me a screen shot of the food) and some drinks.

Before we moved in together he admitted he does it every so often but we have just moved in and I have a feeling he does it more often than he says. Last week I found out he did it but kept it from Me and admitted it when I asked. however, I suspect he also did some cocaine last night . I have never taken cocaine so I can only go off what I have heard and googled are side effects.

He arrived home and was talking A LOT, he was sweating (but he was wearing a stupidly big fleece and had just walked from the train) and I noticed the dry mouth the most. I didn’t say anything at this stage but when I went to bed he said he would come in soon. I woke up a few hours later and he was sleeping on the couch. I came in to tell him to come to bed and he said he has been going to the toilet because of a bad stomach from the food. I was suspicious as I hadn’t heard him do this and am quite a light sleeper. I then asked him if he did coke and he said no he swears he didn’t. But I just don’t believe him.

i don’t want to nag him like a mother figure but I am worried mainly because he is lying if he did take it. What do you think? Did he do it? What should I do now?

The thing is you will never know. He might have or might not have. He could be lying or telling the truth.

You know he takes cocaine occasionally so maybe have a conversation with him about what that means and how you feel about it.

There were definite tell-tale signs in the two men who I knew who took it (one was secretive, one could not stop talking about it) but you just have to Google to find out the side effects. What’s the point? It’s either ok or not.

You're either happy with his drug taking or not. It would be a deal breaker for me as I find druggies incredibly tedious and self centred

The problem is your instincts are screaming at you (quite rightly so) because you know he’s got form.

This is your life now if you want to continue with the relationship.

I think he was taking it with his friend and he’s very well versed at duping you/people:

He was talking A Lot.

He was sweating a lot - and why would he wear a fleece in this weather anyway unless he was out of it.

Why would he send you an image of his food. It’s the sort of lame cover-up a teenager would do.
Look at his phone to see the date the photo was taken.

His reason for staying on the couch was nonsense. You didn’t hear him go to the loo.

Going to bed at 4pm the next day.

Personally, I don’t think this looks good, and your life sounds like it could well be one of frequent questioning, wondering and self-doubt and in-turn very stressful.

Take a massive step back because at present you can’t see the wood for the trees. He lies and appears to take cocaine regularly, it’s time to end the experiment. Do you really want to be consumed by second guessing his drug use? If not, move on because you can’t trust a liar.