Dating new guy

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I have been on three dates with a guy I really, really like. He can be very slow replying to texts, but other times quick. We haven't talked all weekend, and he is travelling today and tomorrow. I sent him a funny message tonight, and he's been on WhatsApp but hasn't read or replied to my message for a couple of hours. Is this a sign he's not that hot for me? I become anxious around people I really like. So not sure - should I be worried or not?

I've always had the impression if a guy is interested, he would waste no time asking you out on another date.

Yes, this is true. Even if it's weeks later due to busy schedules, they'll want to see you again. People don't normally drag their feet booking in a second interview for a job they really want would they?

Some guys will bench you. That is they like you but like someone else more are just aren't really sure about you. They'll stay in light contact so if nothing else works out or they get lonely, there's a back up option.

People don't normally drag their feet booking in a second interview for a job they really want would they

By this metric, when applied to this thread, women wouldn't get jobs and men would.

If he doesn't want me to ghost don't leave me hanging for two days.

Say this, then.

I think your last post sums it up.
If they are interested they would be all over trying to see you again.
I'm guessing he's put you on the subs bench because he's not bothered (but doesn't want to be not texting someone at least) or he's dating other people.

You are giving him too much head space. Modern dating sucks!

Anyone dating or in a relationship that makes you feel unsure where you stand needs to read ‘ Attached ‘ written by Amir Levine .,.. it’s tremendous. It teaches you how to find the right person with the same attachment style as yourself and who to avoid , It explains so much and makes things so clear

@wizzywascal - yea that's true actually. Because thinking back I have had guys ask if I don't like them because I haven't responded to their messages. So they must give it some thought when it's a girl they have feelings for.

@Tsort - I was going to say that. Then decided just to ignore. I had ignored a handful of messages and then got a message saying 'if there is a reason you are not talking to me I would like to know. I'm not going to beg for your attention but I would be disappointed if we never spoke again and I didn't know the reason why...'

He is now being quite clingy, such a head f**k.

I have been through a very similar situation the last few weeks, asking myself all the same things you have because of the very same behaviours. He ended it after 5 dates because of incompatibility,despite saying I was very pretty and a really nice person. I was upset but ultimately, my gut feeling was right. Might not be the same for you but I would say trust your gut and consider what a relationship would look like if this is how he is at the start.

I think the communication thing is neither here nor there, some people just aren't big texters etc. However, you feel unsure as to whether he's into you so are reading into this as a possible explanation. If he was giving those signals, you wouldn't be delving into the lack of texting etc. Which isn't a good sign after 3 dates. I would move on, personally.