Married at 18, divorced at 42. Was astounded at the interest I received IRL - never tried OLD - because, although others have always assessed me as such, I have never considered myself to be attractive. Confident in who I am, my traits, my foibles etc., but never my physical appearance.
I spent a few of years dating three men - not simultaneously obviously. Two similar age to me, one about ten years older. As others have said, they were nice enough but not the entire package (for me).
Then dated someone from work - different division so not close colleagues. Despite being a powerful man in the workplace, outwith it he was a manchild, needy/clingy so speedily dispatched.
Took a couple of years out (for medical reasons) and then decided I should go down the fuck-buddy route with a younger man who had expressed an ardent interest! That was a weird experience and nowhere near as liberating as I'd expected - again with the clingy/needy attempts to move the boundaries of the relationship to something different.
During that phase, I met my current partner. Ditched the FB instantly.
Current partner is, for me, the complete package. He provides me with everything I want/need from a relationship, and he's equally happy with me.
The bizarre thing is although we were in the same year at school, have lived in the same city all of our lives, I could recall all of his schoolfriends and he could recall all of mine yet we could not recall each other! We like to say our standards have reduced with age. lol
The point is, as others have said, there are decent men out there - might take some time to find one, a bit of frog-kissing to be done, but they do exist!