I feel really immature regarding these things. We are both in our early 30s and don’t have a lot of dating history. I want to just confront him, but other people I have spoken to seem to think that it is more of a red flag. I feel really petty and immature asking the same things to them.
I have been with my boyfriend for 10 months, and we see each other once a week. We have been on a few holidays together where we spent more time together. He lives about a 45 mins drive away, so not close but not beyond what people commute everyday.
The last few weekends he hasn’t been able to see me for various reasons, family, friends etc. and sometimes he needs personal space (for the entire weekend). My friend thought that this was a red flag because I am very much an active person, I hardly ever have a day of doing nothing. I don’t know how this can progress into anything further if I am not a priority.
But I have been feeling neglected lately. Last weekend he was busy early Saturday to Sunday evening, so I didn’t want to pester him, but then I found he went to the pub on Friday night. This weekend he has gone to a beer festival with a female friend (more in a bit) and will be too hungover to see me tomorrow. Next week he had drinks planned with his friends so I wouldn’t see him then either (just on Friday night).
He is quite a reserved person and doesn’t like phone calls so we don’t discuss these things.
Regarding the female friend he stays at her house afterwards and has seen her a few times since we got together. My friend’s opinions are split on this because I stay at my male platonic friend’s occasionally when I have been drinking and they live in a doffeeent city. However, I am currently alone and he is out with another woman. It makes me feel a bit neglected.
Honestly, is this going nowhere? Could he be cheating also?