I have been with my partner for 5 yrs. We are both single parents and live 30 min drive away from each other so have never wanted to uproot our kids to combine households. Its worked fine and we are in touch all the time. we also met at work and still both work in the same company. We go on family holidays together and see each other’s families regularly etc. Recently he has had various “illnesses” to the point I became suspicious. I have access to his online bank acct as he’s always been open until now and I've had his login details for various stuff to make sharing costs on days out easier. I was suspicious things weren't right and looking for answers, so i logged in to his accts. I was horrified to see several large credits from payday loan companies, followed by immediate cash withdrawals of similar amounts (like a thousand in one day, on a few occasions). I have rarely seen him carry cash, if at all. The balance was well over the agreed overdraft limit too. He is still working and being paid as normal, but has called in sick for the past 3 weeks solid. I feel sick to my stomach with worry for him & also because I know somethings up. I saw a taxi was paid for at 2am on a weds morning when he had told me he had covid and had gone into detail about ill he was. I don’t know what to do. I cant pretend everything is fine but equally its none of my business and I shouldn’t have looked. Help (and yes bring on the judgement trust me im judging myself for it more than anyone else could)