My narc mother. How do I get through this?

[AnightwiththeTiger]

In practical terms really. I have to cut contact with her. I realise there is no way through. She was very close to one of my children and was doing her best to manipulate him. She knows she can’t see him and has told him to pretend that she’s just on holiday for the moment.

I don’t know what to say to him, other than I wasn’t happy with Nan’s behaviour and that I don’t trust her to make good decisions. He keeps asking when he can see her.

Also from my own point of view do I treat this as a bereavement? I don’t know how to proceed.

Stop with the podcasts, It will not help, it will lead to more questions than answers,. My advice is sit down round the table with all your kids and tell them your truth, Tell then you are so sick and tired of being upset and hurt by Granny and you are choosing to be happy so she has no place in your life anymore,Tell them she has done countless things to hurt you over the years and you just cannot take it anymore,so you are very sorry but you are making a decision that is very hard but it is the right one, Your kids who arent bothered will help pacify your son who is, Tell them you have tried everything and nothing will work and this is now non negotiable or it will make you ill all the stress of it, Lay it down like that and open a discussion with your family, I did similar and they all understood in their own way and supported me because they wanted me to be happy,seciure and loved more than they wanted her to be allowed to destroy me,