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He says it is too difficult to delete Tinder

34 replies

Becky12123 · 29/09/2022 13:43

Hi I’ve been seeing someone for about 6 weeks (but we knew each other years ago). He saw a notification on my phone from hinge and didn’t like it and I pointed out that he’s still on tinder. He said he’d get rid of it. I said I’d do the same when he does it. Thing is he hasn’t. I mentioned it again and he’s saying he has deactivated it/hidden his profile from new people but tinder makes it really hard to delete the app and he thinks he needs a desktop to do it. I know this is nonsense, it’s very easy. Wondered what peoples thoughts are ? Is he just not that into me ?

OP posts:
shipwreckedonhighseas · 29/09/2022 13:46

Why are you bothering with someone you're playing games like this with already?

Ofcourseshecan · 29/09/2022 13:47

it is too difficult to delete Tinder

Yeah, right! 🙄

1Wanda1 · 29/09/2022 13:47

For goodness' sake. You know the answer to this.

SpringCalling · 29/09/2022 13:48

To be fair you haven't deleted hinge either .... I think you're both on the same page of not wanting to be exclusive

OnTheBrinkOfChange · 29/09/2022 13:48

If he's too dim to delete an app, he's not the man for you.

Minikievs · 29/09/2022 13:51

I suspect what he means is that he's set his profile as hidden/deactivated but he's left the actual core data on the profile, as it's a right ball ache to reset it up again if things go tits up with you

Either that, or he's still active online

Either way it's not great. 6 weeks is early though. Have you agreed exclusivity?

supercali77 · 29/09/2022 13:59

I like a pp's point about him being too dim 'sorry, but I think since you cant manage to delete something on the Internet we probably aren't right for each other' 😂

Re tinder profile, nope. He might be hidden but still chatting to people. He might not be hidden (if you have tinder and his location changes then you know he's active and visible). He might be many things but what he isn't is straightforward and after 6 weeks its a clue about what the future looks like with him

Original poster
Becky12123 · 29/09/2022 14:00

Yeah obviously he knows how to delete it. I find it a bit depressing tbh. I don’t want to delete it before he does as I’ll have no means of knowing if he’s still using it. I don’t use the apps and have said I’d get rid of them when he does. He invited me away in a few weeks to meet some family which would surely indicate being a bit serious but the app thing is really putting me off

OP posts:
Doggiedoodoos · 29/09/2022 14:07

Bullshit it takes seconds to get rid of tinder.

candycaneframe · 29/09/2022 14:11

Unless this is his first phone then he is being shady

It's so easy to just delete an app

Original poster
Becky12123 · 29/09/2022 14:16

Yeah it is shady. I don’t know how to address this now as I don’t want to be naggy

maybe I should say that it’s obviously too soon for him to be introducing me to family when he’s still attached to his tinder ?

OP posts:
FlorettaB · 29/09/2022 14:17

Raise the bar.

blockpavingismynightmare · 29/09/2022 14:18

Detach from him and leave him to his Tinder.

Cas112 · 29/09/2022 14:19

It's literally the easiest thing in the world to delete the app😂

Probably harder to hide/deactivate account which he has done

He is talking poo op

LegoFiends · 29/09/2022 14:20

That’s hilarious. But he isn’t worth a moment more of your time.

Daisychainsx · 29/09/2022 14:21

Its too difficult to delete tinder because he's addicted to the swipe, the attention/ego boost, and the search for the next best thing.
Don't waste your time.

AsterixInEngland · 29/09/2022 14:24

It’s either this relationship goes nowhere and we part way NOW or he deletes Tinder (and so do you).

However, seeing his reluctance etc… I’d be wondering if he wasn’t still using from desktop/iPad/whatever…

Raise your bar. He is using you whilst dangling the ‘we are serious’ at you by inviting you to see family.

skgnome · 29/09/2022 14:25

He’s full of it
closing / deactivating the account may (or not, I don’t know) be fiddly
deleting an app from his phone is surely a simple thing

Pixiedust1234 · 29/09/2022 14:25

Delete him. Hes not worth your time, effort or thoughts.

Isnt it a form of love bombing if he's getting you to meet his family early on?

AgentJohnson · 29/09/2022 14:39

Come on OP, are you really this desperate? He's lying and you know he is lying so I don't understand your dilemma.

AgentJohnson · 29/09/2022 14:42

Him inviting you to spend time with his family doesn't equal commitment. If you stay with this chancer, than more fool you.

Reddynextweek · 29/09/2022 14:45

It takes about 20 seconds to delete Tinder. Of course he doesn't need a desktop.
He's a tyre kicker, most likely keeping his options open.
If you're happy with this pathetic bs carry on, if you want more, sack him off

altmember · 29/09/2022 14:50

Becky12123 · 29/09/2022 14:00

Yeah obviously he knows how to delete it. I find it a bit depressing tbh. I don’t want to delete it before he does as I’ll have no means of knowing if he’s still using it. I don’t use the apps and have said I’d get rid of them when he does. He invited me away in a few weeks to meet some family which would surely indicate being a bit serious but the app thing is really putting me off

So he's still got tinder and you've still got hinge and tinder? Sounds like a mexican stand off.

sonjadog · 29/09/2022 14:58

I have deleted Tinder a couple of times. It is really easy. You can do it on your phone in a matter of seconds. He is talking bullshit.

pritixxx · 29/09/2022 15:02

I don’t want to delete it before he does as I’ll have no means of knowing if he’s still using it.

What on earth, why? So you will just keep speaking to other men on Hinge to spite the guy you’re seeing? There will be no happiness from this scenario.

For what it’s worth I met a FWB’s family as I was a plus one to a friends wedding so 🤷🏽‍♀️ I don’t think it’s an indication of seriousness.

6 weeks is very early on, have you agreed to be exclusive or are you just guessing?