He says it is too difficult to delete Tinder

[Becky12123]

Hi I’ve been seeing someone for about 6 weeks (but we knew each other years ago). He saw a notification on my phone from hinge and didn’t like it and I pointed out that he’s still on tinder. He said he’d get rid of it. I said I’d do the same when he does it. Thing is he hasn’t. I mentioned it again and he’s saying he has deactivated it/hidden his profile from new people but tinder makes it really hard to delete the app and he thinks he needs a desktop to do it. I know this is nonsense, it’s very easy. Wondered what peoples thoughts are ? Is he just not that into me ?

It's 6 weeks!!!! I've never deleted an app that quickly. It is a PITA to set it up again. I'm with him on this one.

It is a bit early to be expecting exclusivity, op.

However there is something tacky about dating sites.

Tinder is easy to delete BUT after only 6 weeks I think it's a bit early to be asking for that.

Maybe he doesn't want to delete it until you have or he'd have no way to check up on you.

He’s lieing to you already

Never been on a dating app but surely it would be foolish to delete the actual app and actually remove your profile from it until you're sure that this is going to be a relationship of substance lasting more than a few months.

You haven't deleted yours either OP?

If someone's going to cheat, they're going to cheat regardless of an app on a phone and if a new boyfriend stood over me and demanded I remove apps from my phone while he watched, I would bin him off as a controlling and overly jealous.

You already don't trust him, and feel you need to keep the app so that you can monitor his actions, rather than believing his words.

You address this by saying 'Even if you told me you'd deleted it, I wouldn't believe you, so good luck on Tinder, I'm off to meet someone I can trust.'

Where do you see this relationship going, with such a crappy start? 'He says he'll make me dinner, but I won't believe it until I see proof', 'He says he's going to pick me up at 8pm, but I won't believe it until I see proof'? It's not the world's greatest romance, is it. Is it really what you were looking for?

I feel like you know the answer to your question.
Obviously he’s choosing not to delete it. There might be multiple reasons why…
id say though it’s more important to think about you. Giving he’s choosing not to delete the app what do you want? Is this the relationship you want to be having? If not I’d verbalise that clearly and then if you don’t see the change you want move on.

He's shown you how he feels about your relationship. It's still casual and he's open to dating other people.

I wouldn't just say this to him to make him delete it though. Made that mistake before. Just know that it's casual, and don't bother meeting his family until you're both on the same page.