FWIW OP if you are indeed looking for any useful feedback and not actually touting for a date, as someone currently on OLD sites, some of the things that I (and women I speak to) will swipe left on include:
photos taken in your car from underneath to show your nostril hair
photos with women (yea they may be your best friend/sister/daughter, but also could be your ex or current wife - I shouldn’t have to ask to find out, just crop your bloody photos!)
photos where you’re drinking a pint in every one, or smoking (having clearly stated you don’t smoke or only drink occasionally)
gum selfies, toilet selfies, pics of you up a mountain/on a bike/crossing a finish line etc. Yes I know some women want a fit man and it’s important to have things in common, but I’d also like to spend time with a man, not have to fight for a space between marathon training and mamil-ing.
if the first message doesn’t reference my profile in any way, I know he’s using the scattergun approach and I could be anyone.
if his spelling and grammar is shit.
if he doesn’t ask any questions, just answers the ones I ask him.
if he doesn’t make me laugh
if he thinks that claiming to have his own hair and teeth is a selling point
if he uses the word banter
if he talks of a partner in crime
if all his pics are with cars and motorbikes
if he talks about himself as a car “good bodywork, plenty more miles on the clock” etc
if he’s looking for a ‘girl’ or even ‘lady’. I am a woman not a girl, and I’m certainly no lady. The fact that you don’t want a woman who’s into sex early on means you wouldn’t be for me either. Of course I want to meet someone first before deciding to shag them, but especially at your age we need to rule out ED or weird sex things - no point getting attached to a guy only to find he can’t get it up or wants you to peg him. (unless you’re interested in that of course).
i also rule out anyone too far away, I have enough going on without adding 2 hours travel in the mix.
and previously would have said a man your age without kids would be a no, as it’s easier to understand someone’s lifestyle if it’s similar to your own. I’ve recently met someone without kids and he’s off travelling and having fun while I’m tied to the family home so it’s going to be hard to make it work. However he’s got a lot of other good points so I’m seeing how it goes. If it doesn’t work out I imagine that will be a factor.
In a similar vein, I also swipe left on a man who answers “not sure yet” to the question about wanting kids/more kids. As a nearly 50 year old, I can’t/won’t have any more. If he’s not sure yet he’s clearly not on the same page in terms of moving in to the next phase of life. I’m not investing time in a man who decides in 5 years he wants to be a dad and dumps me for a 35 year old. If you don’t know by now, you’re not for me. And fgs give it some thought as it’s a serious question.
any man who says anything about a size preference or a hair colour preference can get to fuck. My hair colour changes more often than my sheets, and I’m human, so my weight fluctuates too. Even if I’m slim and blonde this week, I may not be another time. I want a man who likes a woman for who she is, not what she looks like.
then there are all those other tiny factors that give people the ick - bad teeth, weird smile, bad hair or dress sense. Or using the phrase “for my sins” or any other stupid little thing that can make one’s vagina clamp up.