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Ghosted by long-term “friend” when in hospital

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cloudyleeeemonade · 19/09/2022 16:11

I had an accident 2 months ago where I ended up being rushed to hospital and stabilised over many many hours. Luckily I was okay, although I have developed PTSD (diagnosed by psychiatrist) and extreme anxiety. Just an awful few months to be honest.

Me and this “friend” had a short relationship 4 years ago. I was very heartbroken when it ended and we were NC for a couple of years. In that time I had another relationship. Whilst I was in that relationship the ex got back in contact with me and basically made out he was having a mental health crisis during lockdown and so we spoke over text a lot and had video calls. He asked to meet up and once we’d had spent the day together asked me to sleep over. I said no. We didn’t speak for months after that.

he got back in touch with me just after my birthday this year & just said he wished he could speak to me whenever he wanted & asking to meet up again. We met up over the course of about 4 months, going to galleries, cinema, the beach, walks, dinners, art events etc. He wanted to speak about the breakup at length saying he very much regretted it, how he hadn’t been able to move on… we spent hours and hours talking. We never kissed or anything remotely sexual, but he did tell me he loved me & missed me.

now to me, it seemed like he was planting the seeds of giving it another go or at least clearing the air so we could build a friendship. Our relationship was mostly built on shared interests and wasn’t just based on sex, so I thought that could be possible.

anyway, despite all this I received a text on the day of my accident asking to meet up for dinner that night. After a few hours I got back to him and explained the situation. He did respond saying he hoped I was okay and asking what happened, but he didn’t reply after that.

its been 2 months!! Not one word of hoping I’m okay or anything… I blocked him last week because obviously there’s no coming back from this…

… but wtf?? Why would someone act like this

OP posts:
Raul57 · 19/09/2022 16:13

You sure the other person is ok?

cloudyleeeemonade · 19/09/2022 16:21

Raul57 · 19/09/2022 16:13

You sure the other person is ok?

Hes been active on social media (albeit not nearly as much as he used to be)… and the fact I managed to give him a heads up whilst in hospital tells me he should be able to do the same for me tbh

OP posts:
Raul57 · 19/09/2022 16:24

Thanks! Yep it hurts but you are best off having blocked him. If/when he comes back be strong and move on
Wishing you a very speedy recovery and good luck.

cloudyleeeemonade · 19/09/2022 16:33

thanks @Raul57 i just don’t understand how people can be so cold, I really don’t!

OP posts:
Greystoke8 · 25/09/2022 08:42

www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/4637256-ghosted-by-long-term-friend-when-in-hospital

@artemisss incase you've forgotten the replies and your story the first time around

LuckyLil · 25/09/2022 08:46

Greystoke8 · 25/09/2022 08:42

www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/4637256-ghosted-by-long-term-friend-when-in-hospital

@artemisss incase you've forgotten the replies and your story the first time around

There's also another one on AIBU

WeAreTheHeroes · 25/09/2022 08:47

@Greystoke8 you've linked to this thread 🙄

Watchkeys · 25/09/2022 08:52

OP you're obsessing about the past. This person has form for treating you in a way that confuses you and makes you feel bad. Avoid them and move on. No need for drama.

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