Should I give this a chance or not bother?

[Pinkpurplesky]

I met with a guy on bumble for a drink the other night. It was a pleasant evening, we had a couple of drinks, he was quite funny and he gave me a kiss at the end. He spoke about himself a fair bit but other than that seemed like a nice guy.

Later he texted if I wanted to go to his on the weekend for a takeaway and some games, and I said I’d go.
But now it’s tonight and I’m a little unsure.

First I don’t know whether it’s a red flag to go to his, and also I dunno if I’m being too picky but his texting is really dry, he will just say things like “morning” “just had a shower haha” “How’s your evening”. Also he’s not a great speller/doesn’t have great grammar and I dunno if it’s ridiculous but it kind of puts me off. I know it’s not all about that though.
Another thing is that he’s very available, he was free to do this every night this week.

I feel bad because I said I’d go, and now it’s tonight. He said he brought a bottle of my favourite cider and he said he’d get the takeaway so I would feel awful.

Am I being too picky? Do I give it a chance?

Well, he wants to have sex with you and has even bought you the cider to help that happen, in my opinion.

Yeah that did cross my mind. I think I like to hope some people are just nice and wouldn’t do that, but who knows lol. Plus I went to my exes on the second date and we ended up together for a looong time so it’s not always bad but yeah, I just don’t know

He’s hoping for sex. You know that don’t you?

Personally (in general) I wouldn’t go on a second date to someone’s house unless all I was interested in was sex and would be quite happy to ghost/be ghosted afterwards.

If you do go, I'll bet he'll be so unavailable after! It would put me off as I'd want to date more than just to go round a guys house for sex, depends on what you want?

I'd be insulted tbh that he thought I'd sleep with him for a bottle of cider and a takeaway. His typos would piss me off till the end of time, too!

Depends what your after. Some food and sex - all fine. Something more? Maybe not the one for you.

To be honest I don’t even know if I want a relationship and I’m not like overly invested in this guy, so I really don’t know! And yeah the grammar errors are annoying 😂

No I wouldn't bother with this. I'm worth more than one date before moving it to home turf thanks and so are you OP.

He's a stranger. I wouldn't go to his for a second date unless I wanted NLPAC strings sex. Make sure you text a friend his address.

By the sounds of it I don't think you're that into him, definitely not for a long term relationship?

If you want sex with no strings attached then go tonight and have fun!

No idea what that auto correct is! No strings sex

Don't bother, find someone more worthy.

And don't be guilted by some lines like "Oh but I've bought your favourite cider 😥"

Spider and the fly.

Tell him you'd like to go out somewhere tonight instead.

The way he handles that change of plan will be quite telling..

Nope, nope and nope.

Second date at home - big nope.

Ongoing SPAG errors - massive nope.

Nothing else going on in his life - might not be a nope without the other two, but if you don’t even fancy him, just nope.

Tell him something’s come up and then don’t rearrange. Slow fade…!

No I wouldn’t be going for a takeaway and games (whatever that means) for a second date. That means going to one of your homes and that is not safe for a second date. Throw this one back as they say.

I wouldn't go to someone's home till i knew them for months.

Maybe confirm you will go around but mention aswell that you will be leaving at 10pm because of the xxxyyyzzz reason. Book a taxi for 10pm and get a mate to phone at 9.55pm
Still, hopefully, have a nice date but no pressure at all.

He is just hoping for a shag, so unless you want that just cancel.

You have nothing to feel awful about, you don’t owe him sex. Also it’s not sensible to go to the house of a man you don’t know and drink booze.

Second date at theirs is always a shag so only go if you are up for that.

I’d suggest going somewhere else instead and see what his reaction is, he’s only bought a bottle of cider, not like he was going to cook so could complain he’d bought food in.

If you text him now you’ve got plenty of time to suggest meeting for a drink/meal/cinema later on instead.

He doesn’t want to put the work in to impress you does he? Can't be arsed to discuss actual going out dates.

Plus if you do that on a second date, you’ll be doing a lot of staying in on all your dates.

I would not be put off by typos or spelling. I am reasonably intelligent but always make mistakes. The second date at his house would be a definite no no for me unless u want sex as I would presume that's on his mind. If you are not bothered about seeing him.don't waste your time or his. Get something nice for your meal and yiur own booze. Chocolate for dessert😁

Ooops supposed to read , don't waste your time and his