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wowjustwow22 · 15/09/2022 11:52

So I met this man walking my dog a year ago . He also has a dog and both our dogs got on so well we decided to start taking them for regular walks together twice a week . We began texting to meet up and then the meet ups turned to late night meet ups which we just let them play together and we would have a beer and talk.

We both developed feelings for each other and as of the other week he said he was falling in love with me and asked me the same question .

It was such a lovely night . Sitting under the stars and talking . The next two days here the same texting all day then when I got home from our usual walk together I had a text off him which read

Hi ..... I have had a long think about our dog walks and they have to stop . It's going too far now and it's not fair on you . I hope you under stand .

I replied and said im sorry if I have done anything wrong and he replied you have done nothing wrong it's just the right time to stop .

I have deleted his number now but I have not been able to stop thinking what he actually means . I won't be texting him again and if he does text me again I won't be replying .

OP posts:
Beautiful3 · 15/09/2022 13:01

Does he already have a girlfriend/wife?

MandyMotherOfBrian · 15/09/2022 13:01

Like everyone else, I’d immediately assume married. And also, that he thinks you know he’s married. Do you?

AnyFucker · 15/09/2022 13:02

Are you really this naive ?

Dery · 15/09/2022 13:04

Another here who thinks he wasn’t actually single. Did you discuss relationship status, OP? It’s not clear from your responses but I wonder whether you just assumed he was single because he was acting single (which is entirely on him, not on you).

Samarie123 · 15/09/2022 13:07

So he asked you if you loved him?

What was your reply?

RaininSummer · 15/09/2022 13:07

I agree that him not being single is the only likely explanation.

Calphurnia88 · 15/09/2022 13:09

Telling you it's time to stop seeing each other after he tells you he's falling in love with you makes no sense... Unless he's already in a relationship.

Another vote for married.

Aikko · 15/09/2022 13:15

He's married and his wife found out. Sorry.

Furnitureflipper · 15/09/2022 13:17

Married and a cheating liar.

StopStartStop · 15/09/2022 13:18

Married. Enjoys the chase, has got the validation he needed. Will move on to the next.

Dartmoorcheffy · 15/09/2022 13:19

Married

C1N1C · 15/09/2022 13:21

Yep married or in a relationship.

The reason he hadn't told you definitively is him keeping his options open for the future.

pawkins · 15/09/2022 13:21

He isn’t single.

Im sorry OP. What an absolute jerk!

pawkins · 15/09/2022 13:22

C1N1C · 15/09/2022 13:21

Yep married or in a relationship.

The reason he hadn't told you definitively is him keeping his options open for the future.

Exactly this. He’s hoping you will go along with it and when it blows up he will say ‘but I told you’.

PineOrange · 15/09/2022 13:22

I would go round to his house now and demand an explanation.

Right now, or at teatime.

Smileandtheworldsmileswithyou · 15/09/2022 13:24

Married!

Raindrops2015 · 15/09/2022 13:34

Not single. Wouldn't let him off too easily by ignoring him. I'd be tempted to spook him and ask him outright. Terrible way to treat you and what a waste of your time.

Cigarettesaftersex1 · 15/09/2022 13:37

PineOrange · 15/09/2022 13:22

I would go round to his house now and demand an explanation.

Right now, or at teatime.

Lol

jrt2022 · 15/09/2022 13:42

He is definitely married.

Dodie66 · 15/09/2022 13:42

What did you say when he said he loved you? If you didn’t say it back perhaps he thought it wasn’t good to continue

AwayWith88Faires · 15/09/2022 13:44

He’s married. His wife has no idea about you.

( though she has her suspicions, after the dog walks he’s more relaxed) he’s spending extra time on his phone.

you know why he can’t talk to you anymore.

he was hoping to keep his options open, he’s also wishing you begged and begged him to keep you in his life.

Facecream · 15/09/2022 13:44

Surely this is that dog walking DH AGAIN…

AmberGer · 15/09/2022 13:44

Wasn't there a post a few weeks ago from a wife who had suspicions her husband was having an affair with a fellow dog walker?

hashbrownsandwich · 15/09/2022 13:46

AmberGer · 15/09/2022 13:44

Wasn't there a post a few weeks ago from a wife who had suspicions her husband was having an affair with a fellow dog walker?

Yes! We need breeds!

Annabananna1 · 15/09/2022 13:50

Were you under the impression he was single?

Are you single?

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