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brunettegal · 2022-09-14T08:43:49+00:00

Do you any you have a large age difference between your boyfriend and you ? I am 47 he is 30 , I do look and act younger and we get in great but just worried for the future he has two kids as do I

dotdotdotdash · 14/09/2022 20:58

I have an age gap with my DP - he’s 14 years older. I wish we were the same age but we’re not. I love him and don’t think about it generally. We have had chats about the fact he may go first; and even what we do if sex life becomes an issue… So we talk about all that stuff but from day to day we’re so into each other it doesn’t matter at all!

ManAboutTown · 14/09/2022 22:01

Everyone is different on age gaps - personally I have very little interest in women more than about 10 years younger than me (I am a few years older than OP). I've always got on well with older women but in my late 50s probably wouldn't want anyone more than 5 years older.

In the end as one or two others have pointed out 47 and 30 means you can both be very active but when he is 50 you will be 67 and that to me at least is a very big age gap in terms of wants and capabilities.. I do a very demanding job (mentally at least) and when I get home in the week the last thing I would want is someone bothering me to go out for a long walk. I also limit things like going out to dinner to once a week mid week. Weekends of course are fine

HoollyWugger · 15/09/2022 10:17

I'm almost 12 years older than the guy I'm currently seeing, and was going to start a similar thread to ask about experiences like this. It's far less common for the woman to be younger, and I do wonder about the gap when he's 50 and I'll be early 60s. Just enjoying the amazing sex for now though!

HyggeandTea · 15/09/2022 17:39

Flicking through the mumsnet posts, even with super attractive, similar age people there are affairs, sexual problems, loss of interest, and total muppets etc etc.

Date someone who adores you, is a decent person and you are attracted too. People change physically at all ages (fat, thin, haircuts, scars, teeth etc). Go for that initial attraction and develop that depth of relationship over time. Then it should be fine.

dramalessllama · 15/09/2022 22:16

I say enjoy it for as long as it's enjoyable. I'm 55 and dating a 33yo. Like you, it's only been 3 months, but it's working well...so far. No kids on either side, and no desire for any on either side.

I'm financially stable and own my own home, as does he...20 minutes away. :) (I refuse to ever live with anyone else.) It's casual, but exclusive, and we have a lot of fun together.

I'm not concerned one bit about looking older, because I stay fit and am more active than he is. LOLLL

Have fun and try not to let numbers define your happiness.

dramalessllama · 15/09/2022 22:18

@HyggeandTea said it perfectly!

"Date someone who adores you, is a decent person and you are attracted too. People change physically at all ages (fat, thin, haircuts, scars, teeth etc). Go for that initial attraction and develop that depth of relationship over time. Then it should be fine."

Spaceprincess · 16/09/2022 00:09

I am 51, DP is 32.
He definitely doesn't want kids.
We are very happy get on great

blockpavingismynightmare · 16/09/2022 00:21

If you are happy together then enjoy what you have and don't think about the age difference.
People are attracted to each other for many reasons and age is one thing you can't alter. If you like each other and have things in common and fancy each other then don't worry. If you spend your time thinking about it you will make it an issue.

bert3400 · 16/09/2022 05:58

11 year age gap between me and DH, I am older. But I keep very fit and don't look 54. We have been together 25 yrs and are incredibly happy. We have 2 DC together. I think life values and outlook are much more important than age. We both have a very similar upbringing. & our parenting values are equal. Our families get on really well . We all meet up socially as one big happy unit.
See how it goes OP I never imagined we would get this far 25years ago.....but when it's right, it really is the best feeling in the world

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brunettegal · 16/09/2022 07:47

HyggeandTea · 15/09/2022 17:39

Flicking through the mumsnet posts, even with super attractive, similar age people there are affairs, sexual problems, loss of interest, and total muppets etc etc.

Date someone who adores you, is a decent person and you are attracted too. People change physically at all ages (fat, thin, haircuts, scars, teeth etc). Go for that initial attraction and develop that depth of relationship over time. Then it should be fine.

Thank you so much Tbf he has more wrinkles than me ha

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brunettegal · 16/09/2022 07:47

bert3400 · 16/09/2022 05:58

11 year age gap between me and DH, I am older. But I keep very fit and don't look 54. We have been together 25 yrs and are incredibly happy. We have 2 DC together. I think life values and outlook are much more important than age. We both have a very similar upbringing. & our parenting values are equal. Our families get on really well . We all meet up socially as one big happy unit.
See how it goes OP I never imagined we would get this far 25years ago.....but when it's right, it really is the best feeling in the world

This is lovely

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brunettegal · 16/09/2022 07:47

blockpavingismynightmare · 16/09/2022 00:21

If you are happy together then enjoy what you have and don't think about the age difference.
People are attracted to each other for many reasons and age is one thing you can't alter. If you like each other and have things in common and fancy each other then don't worry. If you spend your time thinking about it you will make it an issue.

Thank you I agree x

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sparks99 · 16/09/2022 07:49

I'm 45, DP 31. Together 5 years, he proposed this year, getting married next September. We both have children from previous relationships and don't want anymore.

I used to worry about the age gap, over time it's become irrelevant. We have a great relationship, our family life is hectic but brilliant. We love and respect each other and are making the most of life!

Go for it OP, life is definitely too short to worry about the future. No one knows what's going to happen when, so live in the moment and enjoy