Where to meet a man outside of OLD?

[Alice5765]

I'm sick of these tinder apps they are awash with the lowest common denominators in every fashion.

It seems to me men don't chat women up anymore in bars and clubs..

Me and a friend are going to put your theory to the test in October. OLD has done nothing for us and i recently got ghosted after an on/off relationship that went on over a year. Met him on the apps, so i am 100% done with them too. We have decided to select the same bar/cafe and make going out once a week a regular event. Juggling work/kids makes it not all that easy but i am hoping that we will be able to see/meet some decent men without having to swipe. 💪😂

Good luck

Get a motorcycle, you will meet lots of men ( but most be Middle Aged and fat, like me )

ON other threads it has been suggested that Sports and specialist hobbies/pastimes are good. Also find men who do things rather than just talk, drink and chat up women.
Blokes that restore classic cars or work on Heritage Railways are trying to keep historical equipment working are busy doing things and they are helpful personalities.
If you have a Railway near you like the K&ESR or Swanage they are wanting to restart a public service. They need all kinds of experience. True most women get into catering or retail jobs there.
You can change to other depts though. PM me if you want more info.

Yes, completely agree with getting a typically man-centric hobby, or maybe join a walking group (even if you don't find love you'll get fit and make new friends). Failing that get a dog - I don't even have one but I walk through the park lots and there are lots of men walking dogs (this is said tongue in cheek obvs - don't get a dog with the sole aim of meeting men!)
I do think bars are a pretty good bet though, Ive had men attempt to chat me up a couple of times recently whilst ordering drinks even though I had my dh with me 😳!

If doing cafe/bars, probably need to establish a routine so people get to know you'll be there.
Asking a man for 'help' can be a good starter -- e.g. about local stuff or knowledge. (may also establish how much 'mansplaining' they go for, rather than picking up the hint at flirtation).
Check with female friends if they know anyone of interest.
The 'best' men are in relationships -- getting them when one relationship ends may be a good shot, starting as a friend maybe.

Good luck.

The part about 'men chatting women up' is quite interesting. Do you ever approach men yourself, or are you waiting for them to come to you? Men like to be approached!

I've hears on a podcast (don't flame me!) that women who approach men are wasting their time; if a man is interested, he'll approach you

*heard sorry am on a train!

I think this is both true and not true at the same time, if a woman just walked up some random bloke in the street/ bar I don’t think that would work too well, unless there was some form of connection via a club or hobby or existing friendship circle or some prior knowledge of each other in some way.

I think in this day and age any man with half a brain would be much more reticent about about approaching / trying to chat up single woman , than say 10 or even 5 years ago.

Society certainly feels quite different to when I was a younger man (ohh, Young Man ! )

Depends on the man.
If he's good looking you're probably right.
If he's below average you might be in with a decent chance.

Please don't join sports groups (or other established hobby groups) just to flirt and pick up a date. It's really annoying and screws up the dynamics. Only join groups if you are interested in the actual hobby.

There are many meetups, networking events, gigs, singles parties, etc etc. Go to these, dress well, make a lot of eye contact, exchange numbers, and take it from there.

Try coffee shops

Men are probably too scared to approach women anymore in case they are labelled as a creep or harassing them etc

I'm happily married so not looking but agree with the dog. I've never chatted more with random pleasant men since I had mine.

dance classes. Lots of new couples in my salsa group.

Gym

Men like to be approached, just as much as women do.

Lol yes, I'm giving OLD the boot for a while. The amount of men with issues and baggage on there is staggering. I'm giving meetups a try. So far got some gigs and bar tours lined up, but there are allsorts of group activities you can do with them.
I am finding that there are a high proportion of socially awkward people and people with other MH issues that attend these groups, however, some are just new to area or want to fill their social calander whilst they are living and working in the area for a time - these people are good to chat to, maybe not relationship material, but while you are out there making friends with them, you are circulating generally and in prime position to spot and meet others who may just be out and nothing to do with the meetup groups and you might just make some friends and expand your social scene thereby improving you chances. I'm hoping so anyway, it's just good to get out there on a regular basis. Works best I think if you live near a large city, bigger pool of people.

I have had dogs for 15 years - never once met a man that way!!

Martial arts class
social dancing
art class

I suppose the problem with hobbies/dog walking/ gym is that there may well be some pleasant approachable men there but they might not be single.

At work, if you’re not in an industry that gives you the opportunity to meet men how about an evening job? Hospitality where you meet other staff members and punters?

@Northbynorthbreast I've been in several art classes, and unless you want a 19 year old student or a 60+ man, not many men in between go to art classes. Maybe photography, but not something like painting.

I did a few online art classes last year - all women, not a single man. Not that I was doing them to meet men, but it was odd. Surely there must be lots of creative men out there?