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Minimalme · 13/09/2022 07:42

Oh dear. If you are looking for 'evidence' that he hasn't cheated (again) then I don't think you'll find it.

Schtuck · 13/09/2022 07:46

Very accurate.

And they've always been 'hacked'.

SallyWD · 13/09/2022 07:56

Ez985 · 13/09/2022 07:37

In an update to my main post, the situation is that I saw a number of gay dating sites in our shared Mac history that was linked up to his iPhone. I then saw on his location that he was at two of the “meet up” points that one of sites recommends on his way home from family, two nights in a row. He says there was traffic and had to go these routes. So I’ve used the word cheating wrongly to be honest. Is it too much of a coincidence? I have confronted him and he’s saying he’s been hacked etc which is quite plausible as he has been getting weird things through on his phone for a number of months. What doesn’t add up is the location… how correct is find “Find My” on iPhone

I'm sorry but they always say they've been hacked. I don't understand why you're not more angry about his past and current cheating. You seem to be passively waiting to see what he chooses to do. Take control of your life. You don't need to be treated like this.

PinkButtercups · 13/09/2022 08:01

Find my iPhone is actually very accurate.

They've always been hacked. Weird things probably pop up on his phone because the sites he is accessing.

Smartiepants79 · 13/09/2022 08:05

Find my phone is very accurate.
This man is not your friend in any way.
Friends don’t lie to each other.

tsmainsqueeze · 13/09/2022 08:17

My best friend wouldn't treat me like that !
You are in for misery in the long term if you stay with someone who treats you with such contempt .
Get some self respect.

hugefanofcheese · 13/09/2022 08:27

So he's been hacked, and the hacker is accessing gay dating sites where the meetup locations match his whereabouts more than once. Does this sound like the most plausible explanation? Thing is, you may never get solid proof such as a photo of him cheating, you have to weigh up the balance of probability in your own mind.

wellhelloitsme · 13/09/2022 08:49

So he's been hacked, and the hacker is accessing gay dating sites where the meetup locations match his whereabouts more than once.

This.

OP you know he's bullshitting you but to admit that to yourself is too painful at the moment, I think.

carefullycourageous · 13/09/2022 08:54

You will believe what you want @Ez985 I would say you are being lied to and should leave the relationship but no one will be able to convince you, you have to make your own choices.

Name99 · 13/09/2022 10:08

You woll need to get yourself a full STI test and never have unprotected sex with him again
Get regular tests done for the rest of your relationship.
That's the reality of it if you stay in this relationship
Hes lying, you need to think very carefully about what is actually happening here
Why would a hacker access gay dating sites when they could be draining his bank account.

It doesn't make sense, because it is a lie

BecauseICan22 · 13/09/2022 12:32

Ez985 · 13/09/2022 07:37

In an update to my main post, the situation is that I saw a number of gay dating sites in our shared Mac history that was linked up to his iPhone. I then saw on his location that he was at two of the “meet up” points that one of sites recommends on his way home from family, two nights in a row. He says there was traffic and had to go these routes. So I’ve used the word cheating wrongly to be honest. Is it too much of a coincidence? I have confronted him and he’s saying he’s been hacked etc which is quite plausible as he has been getting weird things through on his phone for a number of months. What doesn’t add up is the location… how correct is find “Find My” on iPhone

Ok, I'm out.

Good luck, you're certainly going to need it as well as the world's biggest reality check.

TheFormidableMrsC · 13/09/2022 12:53

Ez985 · 13/09/2022 07:37

In an update to my main post, the situation is that I saw a number of gay dating sites in our shared Mac history that was linked up to his iPhone. I then saw on his location that he was at two of the “meet up” points that one of sites recommends on his way home from family, two nights in a row. He says there was traffic and had to go these routes. So I’ve used the word cheating wrongly to be honest. Is it too much of a coincidence? I have confronted him and he’s saying he’s been hacked etc which is quite plausible as he has been getting weird things through on his phone for a number of months. What doesn’t add up is the location… how correct is find “Find My” on iPhone

You are joking surely? Nobody could be this naive.

steeringclear · 13/09/2022 13:12

Before you got to the cheated with a man part I was already wondering why you put up with him at
So last night I caught my boyfriend of 7 years cheating, again.

And then I read

He left me last year for another woman for example,

Why did you let him come back???
And then...
is very woman obsessed sexually, loves bums, boobs etc. always chatting up the women.

But it got worse with..

do I wait for him to come out and tell me when he decides what he wants?

And I decided it had to be a joke, right?

Madamecastafiore · 13/09/2022 13:30

Wow you're nicer than me OP. There's absolutely no way I'd still be best friends with someone who could be infecting me with a virus that could end my life prematurely.

billyt · 13/09/2022 16:28

@Ez985

You really need to raise your bar. It's currently laying on the floor.