Hi, this is my first post so please try and be nice to me.
I'm fairly new to the dating game after a hideous split from my ex 2 years ago. After hearing so many unpleasant things about OLD, I decided to join a dating agency.
Lo and behold they matched me with this man and he got in contact with me (we are both 50 years old, so not kids!). We arranged to have a date and it went really well and he asked me out on another one. He booked to take me to dinner and we had another great date. We had so much in common, we had good banter and he seemed extremely keen.
We then couldn't meet the following week because I had friends to stay, we were in contact each day and a few times he asked to speak with me on the phone, this wasn't always possible as I had lots of people around me but I did always make an effort to call him back if I didn't answer.
He was hugely complimentary about me and said that he really enjoyed talking with me as I made him feel like he could be himself and that it just felt natural. He fed back to the agency that he'd had two great dates with me, found me very attractive and that I had good banter. We tried to meet up before he then went on holiday but he then said he wouldn't have time because work had gotten really busy and was I OK with that because it would be quite a long time until we met again. Of course I said I was OK with it because there wasn't really any other choice and I didn't want to come over all demanding!
On the Friday we exchanged texts in the morning and I went off to have the day with my friends. He text me in the evening to saying "You're very quiet" followed by "Are you having a good night?". I didn't reply until the following morning as I had left my phone in a friend's car. I joked and said 'Ahh did you miss me?!" and he replied "Yeah right" followed up with "I love talking to you when I can get a word in edgeways!". I said next time he can do the talking when we speak.
He phone me that night so I let him do the talking although it has to be said he was pretty hungover as he'd been to a party. I mentioned that I might be down nearer his way the next day as I needed to drop my son off (we live about 90 minutes apart currently although he is moving nearer me). He said to let him know if I was as he might try and come up and meet me so I left the call feeling buoyant that he seemed really keen and I really liked him too.
The next day I sent him a message around midday saying "Feeling more human?" to which he replied "Yes I am thanks", this for him was a pretty short reply, there was none of his usual warmth or a follow up question to invoke conversation. I then went on to send another one saying that I'm not coming down his way today but did he want to chat later (he had always asked if I wanted to chat, so I felt it was only fair to balance it out by asking him). His replay was "I'll be out later" - again, nothing like his usual banter and easy conversation. To be honest, I felt really confused and dare I say it a little bit hurt by these curt replies so sent one back saying "I sense from your short answers that perhaps this has run it's course, I really enjoyed meeting you though" to which he replied "I feel it has, take care". I was completely stunned by his response given his level of contact during the week - it just didn't make any sense to me.
The agency contacted me to ask how things were progressing so I rang and told them what happened and that I was very confused. They were very confused too as they said they felt very excited about our match and that he had given really positive feedback. They explained that they had heard from him and he'd said that he decided not to progress it but that it ended amicably. I explained to the lady about the text I had sent and she felt that perhaps he'd taken it the wrong way and that I was finishing it and that his ego had perhaps gotten in the way so he fired off a curt response back. I can tell from talking to him and he is a real 'man's man' so perhaps he didn't take well to my message and now I feel stupid for sending it as I just reacted quickly based off of his short replies. I did explain that I had expressed to him that this was based on his short replies to me but she said some man don't really pick up on the nuances of things that we might do as women.
She thinks I should message him so that I know once and for all if it was a miscommunication or indeed he just kind of switched off his feelings over night. I explained that I would feel really crappy if he just blew me out again or worried that I might come across as some kind of bunny boiler which she laughed at. Or even worse, what if he ignored me!!
I sent the message over two weeks ago and to be honest I have really missed our chats and banter and feel like we may have missed an opportunity to at least explore what it might have been a bit more before cutting it dead.
Any of your insights to this tediously long post would be much appreciated as I am stuck wondering if I should or not as I can't work out if he just suddenly went cold or something else was going on.