Do "players" ever change?

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If you met a man who was 40
Had a grown up daughter (19) had failed relationships behind them...showed narcissistic tendencies...history of sleeping around,talking to multiple women and he was known to love attention....
Is there a chance he will ever change ?
Stop checking other women out? Not need attention from all over and just be happy with one woman?

From my experience no, not a chance. They can't stop themselves, that's why they do it.

It's not so much he is a player , I mean rod Stewart stopped when he met Penny . The issue is he is a Narcissist so won't be aware / worried about the effects of his actions on others .
With true narcs the advice is run for the hills .

There was a video on a night out he was tagged in on fb and he was blatantly checking out a woman's bum ...it's like he can't help himself

No chance

Not a hope in hell, mate.

More chance of a lion turning vegan.

The word player makes them sound far more interesting than they actually are. Try wanker instead.

No they don't change. They just turn into sad old gits. Speaking from experience I'm afraid.

Surely the older they get and they loose looks they will settle down ?

Really they don't. Even when they lose their looks they are still sniffing around. I know ow a guy who is 75 and still got 3 women on the go!

They're more likely to chase reassurance that someone still finds them attractive.

No, they don't change.

At that age I doubt it. Maybe an immature little prick In his teens/twenties will grow up and stop messing around, but not when they reach their forties. 🏃🏻‍♀️ 🏃🏻‍♀️ 🏃🏻‍♀️

They don’t change. They might pretend they have but they go from player, to underhand cheat to sleaze.

Some men retain a lot of charm into an advanced age and get lots of attention and enjoy it.

Nope. Sadly, I’m married to one.

nope, I met one in his late 50's. knew him for about 6 years. age did nothing to diminish his attention seeking, narcissistic BS. he LOVED flirting and lying. he's probably still at it. I knew another one, early 70s, made it very clear what he wanted. I don't think they change, sorry.

Maybe if he wad 20... by 40 I think for most people their personality has formed, barring a serious, life changing event.

Why do you ask op?

really sorry if you are in a relationship with this ‘man’.

Did you think you could be the one to change him ?

think again. While he still has breath in his body and vision in his eyes he will be checking out what he can get away with

I know someone like this, he’s never changed. Even when he had the best life he’d ever had with a lovely woman and her family for about 10 years, turns out he was still the same, just hid it better in his 50’s. Now that’s all gone he’s still at it.

A couple of my ex-players are married now. I don’t know what it’s like for their wives... But I’m glad I didn’t marry any of the good-time-guys I dated.
My sex-life isn’t as much fun as it was back then (I’m married now) but at least I don’t have to worry about all of the other women, with DH.

Ask yourself why you’re even considering someone who sounds so awful. An attention-seeking creep who ogles passing women’s asses? What a catch.

Nope, they don't change until age catches up with them. Once they can't get it up any more they look for someone to be a carer for them.

(Not my experience, but that of other women who were married to and subsequently divorced, 'players'.)

Indeed
is he a billionaire or something?

Nope - they don’t change and it’s pathetic to watch as they grow older