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I’m scared

60 replies

Kaznad76 · 19/08/2022 16:26

This morning I found three undisolved tablets in the bottom of my cup of coffee my partner had made me - I’ve asked him about it and he says they’re caffeine tablets as he thought I needed a boost - I have said I need to be careful with caffeine as previously had a mini stroke - I’m also really upset that he would do this without telling me - am I being ridiculous and over reacting ? I am aware his ex accused him of trying to poison her too but he says she was on drugs at the time - I’m thinking he’s not the person I thought and I’m worried . I’d be grateful for any advice x

OP posts:
Forcefield · 19/08/2022 21:32

Not only has he given you unsolicited drugs, but you have told him that you are dangerously sensitive to caffeine. So even if they are 'only' caffeine, he knows that is a dangerous thing to give you.
And then what he said about his ex on top of that. I think he is a dangerous person, on all three counts.

antwacky · 19/08/2022 22:02

Please inform the police, Ì knew someone whose husband did this to her. It was awful but thankfully he was arrested and eventually went to prison for the things he did to her. Please take good care of yourself.

HyggeandTea · 19/08/2022 22:47

I would also be scared. Would you do the same to him if the reverse was true? Of course not; his explanation makes no sense at all.

Dery · 19/08/2022 22:52

End it now. This is all kinds of wrong. Just look into what happened to Helen Bailey. His ex said the same. Yes, go to the police by all means but the main thing is to get him out of your life. This man is incredibly dangerous.

Dery · 19/08/2022 22:54

You’re right to be scared. Is there anywhere you can go now to get away from him? There are no good reasons for him to be putting drugs in your food or drink.

PiecesofFive · 20/08/2022 00:13

How long have you been together, are you married ?

Does he have life insurance on you, and is he your next of kin.

I would inform the police

Sisiwawa · 20/08/2022 01:00

Get away, he will now possibly change his tactics to something else. Report to Police.

Opaljewel · 20/08/2022 09:09

Hope you kept the tablets or took a picture. Please report to the police.

Dery · 20/08/2022 12:51

Are you safely away from him now, OP?

iamjustwinginglife · 22/08/2022 10:46

I find it rather worrying that the OP hasn't come back to this post. She seemed to be in real danger.

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