I’m scared

[Kaznad76]

This morning I found three undisolved tablets in the bottom of my cup of coffee my partner had made me - I’ve asked him about it and he says they’re caffeine tablets as he thought I needed a boost - I have said I need to be careful with caffeine as previously had a mini stroke - I’m also really upset that he would do this without telling me - am I being ridiculous and over reacting ? I am aware his ex accused him of trying to poison her too but he says she was on drugs at the time - I’m thinking he’s not the person I thought and I’m worried . I’d be grateful for any advice x

either way.. Hes drugging you.

There is no good thing about that, no matter what he THOUGHT you needed, no one just pops caffeine tablets into someones coffee. I would have gathered the undisolved stuff and taken to a police station and asked them to test it.

If something came up i would press charges

As someone else has said, you're now in a very dangerous time. He knows you know and if he thinks your suspicious of him he may act in order to keep you quiet. Does he know you're suspicious or does he think you bought the 'caffeine tablets' story?

If you are going to stay with him, at least until you find out what the tablets actually were, then please just be very very careful.

If he has said that his ex has also accused him of poisoning her too I’d take that as something to worry about. Abusers are good at twisting stories to make it appear their exes are crazy/ drunk/ on drugs. I would never get involved with someone who disclosed this sort of information unless there was concrete evidence suggesting the ex is a complete nutter and that she makes false accusations.

As everyone else has said, you need to get rid as fast as you can. You do not know what was in those tablets. He should not be putting anything in your drink caffeine boost or not without your permission.

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Store the tablets in a plastic zip bag and him for the caffeine tablet packet.

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You could try to get a hair test. It will show if youve been ingesting drugs over a longer period. This actually happened to someone I know and the hair test confirmed he had been drugging her. Be careful

Are you joking? Is this a fake post? If not I truly would be running for the hills, especially as his been accused of this before!!

Dangerous!

If this is real he is dangerous.

Leave now, and report to the police. Giving someone who needs to avoid too much caffeine is an intent to do harm. Take the tablets with you if you still have them.

Also tell the police about the ex partner allegations

This. Get out now because he is dangerous.
Someone has also suggested a hair test for drugs already in your system.
Don’t give him another chance to poison you.

Oh my goodness.
Definitely involve the police. Gather any evidence you can and play things very close to your chest. He is very dangerous and who knows what he might do.

Oh god....I'm scared for you!

This has given me major George Chapman AKA Severin klosowski vibes....(one of the main Jack the ripper suspects who also ended up poisoning 3 of his poor wives...)

You need to play dumb and pretend everything is OK whilst quietly planning an escape to safety.

I’d go absolutely crazy if I discovered DP (or anyone) did this.

I’d also demand to see the packet of exactly what was in there to prove it (& may not believe him even if he can immediately produce the pack with 3 missing) as wouldn’t trust him from that second onwards; how dare he drug you without consent?!??

Hopefully this isn’t real.

I’d also be tempted to report to the police as this is outrageous and how can you ever accept another drink/food from him in the future? I wouldn’t want him near anything I was going to consume ever again if he’s arbitrarily happy to just slip unsolicited pills into it?!

How did he react when you mentioned it? If he was calm/matter of fact, I’d be worried this wasn’t the first time if he thinks this is in any way ok.

For “absolutely crazy” I meant that’d be my initial reaction which would be a reflex action at point of discovery of the pills in coffee, but my advice to you actually in this situation is more in line with pp of keeping your cards close to your chest and going to the police with any evidence and tell them the context of his ex accusations.

Holy moly OP!! If at the very least it’s “just” caffeine tablets he’s put in without your knowledge, that’s wrong enough! How did you feel after drinking it? The above mentioned hair strand test sounds a great idea! Xx

You’re right to be scared, are you still at home? Is there somewhere you can go, right now? A friend, family?

Take the tablets with you, but don’t make a big deal of telling him, I’d be very wary of his reaction right now.

Just calmly announce you’re nipping out to see someone & go and tell them what’s happened & stay with them for now.

I wish it was 😢 trying to keep the peace tonight as we have his son with us - I put on here as I don’t feel I can tell anyone I know - sorry if people don’t believe me but it’s true - I probably wouldn’t believe me either so would the police ? I doubt it now after comments made

Jesus Christ, if this was on its own, I would run but combined with the fact that he has been accused of this by his ex gf it is soo telling. Please save yourself and escape. Stay with the family or friends if you can whilst you make your arrangments. He is dangerous.

Do you live together? That is absolutely terrifying. You needed a boost? Nobody should ever be trying to give you drugs, god knows what the tablets were: what medication do you have in the house? This would be a dealbreaker for me.

Please do inform the police.

My aunt thought her husband was up to something.

She’s dead. He poisoned her.

his ex will corroborate your story - oldest line in the book is “my crazy ex”.

You absolutely should tell the police for your safety. Please don't let the thought that they might not believe you put you off. If you should feel that you are not being taken seriously ask to speak to someone on the domestic abuse team. Focus their minds.

Can you ensure that you only eat food that you have unwrapped and prepared for yourself? The same for drinks. And if you leave a drink unattended, for any reason, ditch it and make a fresh one.

Can you get away and stay elsewhere as soon as possible? Do you have somewhere you could go?

Woah @Kaznad76 do you still have the mug with whatever it is in it? It's unlikely to be caffeine as there'd be no point in him doing that. Maybe he wants to send you to sleep for some reason- I know someone who put valium in his wife tea so she went to sleep and he could go out and see his OW.

If you still have the mug with a bit in it then take it to the police (or you could go anyway.)

That his ex said that is too much of a coincidence.

You need to leave ASAP and obviously don't eat or drink anything he's had access to.

They will believe you, especially since his ex said the same.

Do you have a way of contacting her?

Can you get away somewhere safe in the morning? You really need to tell someone in real life.