Abusive?

[curlyqueen2]

My partner is abusive mentally physically financially sexually and is really in me head. Been 6 years of this and not getting any better infant getting worse taking drugs and blaming everything on mental health, he turns everything around I don’t even no what’s right or wrong anymore. Have a child also want to get away but feel like I don’t have the strength any advice please ?

Oh I’m just so sick of of all of his BS! once again been on the phone to my work! Also shouting and balling when I past him in the street even tho I was trying to avoid he still spotted me! I feel like screaming I was upset for a couple of minutes and then just thought this is typical him. Typical him that wants to ruin everything and it’s just disgusting to look at him constantly off his face being screamed at. I am so tired and exhausted I can’t do it anymore all I want to do is just move I wish I had a magic wand!

Go.to.the.police.

Seriously op if you keep letting him get away with this, he is going to get you sacked.

As a boss I'd be understanding up to a point. But not if he kept phoning me and you were doing nothing about it. Your boss doesn't have to take the harassment.

Literally go into the station and make a report. About everything. The abuse, the harassment, that he is contacting your work. Everything. Keep on them until they do something about it.

Also, if he's bothering your manager, then they can confirm your side of what's going on if you're worried about being believed.

You're actually in a strong position if you only knew it - you have a job, you have a home.

If you're in a housing association/council house, speak to your housing officer about a. support with domestic violence (they have a duty of care and some also run refuges) and b. potentially doing a mutual exchange with another tenant to move to a new address he doesn't know.

If you're able to pass him in the street, you're out of the house. Take action, and do it now. Lock the door and leave the key in the lock so he can't get in. Call the police. Make a full report, use this thread, text message, voice mails, whatever you have, as evidence.

Stop asking how you start - this is the start. You've had some amazing advice and motivation on this thread but you're still asking how to start.

At what point will YOU snap? When he beats you? When he hits your child? When he hospitalises one of you? Because one of those events is likely to happen and you're allowing this excuse for a man to be around your child and influence their behaviour, and their future.

Stop asking questions and call someone who can help you, in real life. Police. Women's Aid. Domestic Violence Helpline. All the details are in this thread.
Call them.