Seems like a stupid question but I feel at a crossroads and don't know what to do and I'm going round in circles over it. After many years of renting and saving we've just about got a small deposit together to buy a house. It's been my dream all my life and I've got lots of plans and spend every day on rightmove. DH couldn't be less interested. He says it's a hassle what is there to get excited about. He assumes I'll do all the work to organise it as he says I'm better at logistics and paperwork and that sort of thing. Our relationship is pretty stagnant since having kids but it's not terrible, we're friendly, we get on. We mostly bicker over him leaving me all the housework, childcare and mental load but nothing worse than that. If I ask him to do something he does it, but I have to ask first. I imagine my future with him and enjoy his company but we're no longer intimate. Some days I feel really lonely, other days I think at least he's here to share some of the jobs and bills and that I could go along like this for another decade until the kids leave home. We have discussed divorce but similarly he's not interested in thinking about it, just a load of hassle and paperwork for me to do again. He doesn't want the status quo to change. Do I just go ahead, buy a joint house build the equity for a decade and review things when the kids are older? Achieve a dream, give the kids a secure home? If we divorced we'd have to both carry on renting so am I letting the chance to buy a house cloud my judgement? Would this be a waste of a decade when we could both be living happier lives and we should cut our losses now before complicating things with a mortgage?