Why bother texting?

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Been on three dates with a guy and he won't commit to a 4th date, but texts me daily, checking in, saying he's really into me, can't wait to see me etc, we speak every few days, but he won't tie down the next date. Always some excuse or waiting to see if he has to work.

Why does he keep texting etc if he doesn't want to meet up? Why waste both our time and energy??

He's probably keeping you as a back up in case his preferred option works him out 😉

You make the decision.

Sorry, but I think he’s ‘keeping you warm’ in case the other woman he’s dating (and prefers) doesn’t work out

This. ^ Sorry.

Bin him off.

Probably what above posters have said but why are you letting him keep texting you?

Why not say something like “I’m only really interested in messaging with you if you’d like to meet up again, otherwise I don’t see the point in us wasting our time”

Damn it. You're probably right. How do I bin him off. I have to see him again as he works in the same building as me (not for the same business) but will probably bump into him once a week or fortnight.
Would you call him out, phase him out or block and delete?

Feel like the last one will create more questions/convo when I see him. I'd rather avoid awkwardness.

Mixture of liking his messages, boredom and a dash of hoping one of them will be the one setting the date.

I'm not hooked on him though and can detach - just want to do it in the least awkward way.

Phase it out, don't respond straight away, keep answers short, he'll either step up and ask you out or also stop replying.

Incidentally he also has that setting on WhatsApp where there are no blue ticks - no read receipts but obviously gets messages as responds. I think its dodgy, but I do have one friend who also has that and she's completely straight. What's your view?

He's elseeing if anything better comes along sorry op. Waste of space he is. Ignore him , what a loser

I've got my WhatsApp read receipts off. When I'm dating men check if I've been online so if I've not responded to them in a time frame they think is acceptable then they bring up I've been online and not responded. There really is nothing dodgy your guy is entitled to his privacy if that's what he wants.

A dear friend calls this “being on their subs bench”. Agree with PP - just go slow fade on the messages. Let them peter out. Get busy with other things.

Yes, but doesn't this compound the theory that he's probably dating multiple people?

I find that odd when people do that. My husband has his 'last seen' off, which I find ok, but the read receipts thing is odd.

Something like "hi Dave, i enjoyed our date last X and as ive said im happy to meet again but im unsure it will work for me if you're so busy with other commitments.

There's keeping people warm and on the bench and then there's sending messages saying he 'can't stop thinking about me', 'never feels this way after just a few dates', wants to to take me away etc etc.

I get the touching base to keep warm but this is a bit sick isn't it? Not sure why he feels the need to take it so far.

How about-

Hi Dave. Hope everything goes well at work- you sound super busy!

Give me a shout when/ if you have time to meet up again.

@neshtastic - agreed. There is something off about it.

@sluppy.

Not necessarily but he more than likely is . But that's just men for you these days it seems. I only ever speak to one man at a time but that's me.
We don't know if he's dated a woman who was batshit! Checking his online status every few minutes etc.
Regardless of what he's doing he's still entitled to some phone privacy if that's what he feels like. He doesn't owe anyone an explanation a few dates in does he .

Hi person,
I really enjoyed our dates but I don't want to pursue a relationship by text and you seem very busy at the moment so let's leave things here. Happy to say hi if I bump into you in the office. Have a nice weekend.
From stranger things.

Morning Twat face (insert real name here. Or not)

Its been fun getting to know you, but I'm struggling to maintain romantic interest in someone who isn't prioritising time with me.

Toodles

Do this.

No, not that last paragraph. Gives the idea you're able to tolerate nonsense.

I get the touching base to keep warm but this is a bit sick isn't it? Not sure why he feels the need to take it so far.

With my cynical hat on, it could be so that you'll fall all the further when he disgards you finally.

Giving him the benefit of the doubt, it could be that he's just having fun with it all.

You are a person, not a play thing. Hopefully the next one will see that

When was the last time you met up?

Saw a very sensible tik tok

It said date for the relationship you are looking for, not just the person