Ex boyfriend who ditched me 3 years ago messaged....

[itsaboutdamntime]

He broke my heart 3 years ago
3 years ago I was a pathetic mess practically begging him for attention.
Fast forward 3 years I feel zilch
I'm happy and in a nice happy relationship for over a year.
He has since been married and separated ...(my friend is friends with him on fb)
Anyway last night I get a message
"Hi just wanted to clear the air and apologise how I treated you,hope your well"

Does he think I'm still crying over him 3 years later
The audacity !

Probably fishing for attention rather than a genuine apology.
I think I'd tempted to say no worries, I've moved on to a happy relationship then block, Just so he knows you don't give a shit.

They always come back, he is probably looking to get laid. Do not reply.

He’s fishing, ignore.

"Who is this please" then block

Ha! I’m great thanks. 😊

And then block

Sounds like he either wants an ego massage that you're still hung up on him, or is doing something like the AA ten-step programme which suggests that you contact all the people you've wronged to 'make amends'. Either way it's a selfish act to make himself feel better, not you, and I'd either ignore or text back a very breezy 'no worries!' or something then not engage further.

Before you block him tell him to learn some grammar skills. Hope your what is well? He's missed some words out of his question.

Sounds like he's looking for a shag. Best thing to do to throw him off is to totally ignore him

No answer is the best answer.

"Hi just wanted to clear the air and apologise how I treated you,hope your well"

So he hasn't actually apologised at all yet, has he?

I would just ignore it. He (and it) bring nothing positive to your life and should be treated as such.

Block. Don't reply.

I’d be tempted to put the thumbs up emoji in response because I think it’s rude but really you should probably just ignore. He’s bored and looking for attention.

"Oh yes I'm great thanks, hope you're OK. Gonna block you now as I don't want to get into a conversation."

A breezy "water under the bridge now but I appreciate your apology. All the best!" is probably best here.

So in a mere three years he had another relationship, got married and has now split up again?

He doesn't hang around does he?

He's sniffing around for a shag.

Ignore (& delete).

Block and delete. No good will come of this.

I love the lack of a sorry.

Which merits a lack of response.

I suspect he is sniffing also.

Agree with others, he doesn't think you are still crying about him 3 years later. He thinks you are easy prey for a shag.

I was going to suggest ignoring him as this will wind him up.

But I actually like the suggestion of only replying with "Thanks for the apology" and then blocking.

That'll really piss on his chips

Always isn’t? I think we all had one of those, I would have replied, who is this? and then ignored, best revenge is for them to realise that they are truly past

"Who is this?" is utterly pathetic and makes the user look deranged.

My year 7's so-called friend did this to her when she tried to get in touch after they went to different secondary schools. Nasty little girl.

Id reply.

Hi there. Lol, don’t worry, It made me realise we really weren’t suited. I’m with someone I really care about so think it’s best not to strike up conversations with ex’s out of respect but I didn’t want to completely ignore your message. I hope you’ve been well. No need to respond.

He's just sending out a mass-fishing expedition to all his ex's hoping for a bunk up.

Just ignore.

Send a thumbs up emoji then block

I'd reply: It's hope YOU'RE well by the way. God, you never could use an apostrophe, could you?! Yeah, I'm really great thanks and in a lovely, happy, long-term relationship with a terrific, well-educated man. Send, then block.