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Ex boyfriend who ditched me 3 years ago messaged....

38 replies

itsaboutdamntime · 11/08/2022 14:39

He broke my heart 3 years ago
3 years ago I was a pathetic mess practically begging him for attention.
Fast forward 3 years I feel zilch
I'm happy and in a nice happy relationship for over a year.
He has since been married and separated ...(my friend is friends with him on fb)
Anyway last night I get a message
"Hi just wanted to clear the air and apologise how I treated you,hope your well"

Does he think I'm still crying over him 3 years later
The audacity !

OP posts:
Leafy3 · 11/08/2022 17:07

Inthesameboatatmo · 11/08/2022 16:49

Send a thumbs up emoji then block

I quite like this as a response.

Bit of a rubbish apology isn't it?

SweetcornFritter · 11/08/2022 17:15

I’d reply “there’s nothing to apologise for, you did me a massive favour, have a nice life”.

Cam22 · 11/08/2022 17:19

itsaboutdamntime · 11/08/2022 14:39

He broke my heart 3 years ago
3 years ago I was a pathetic mess practically begging him for attention.
Fast forward 3 years I feel zilch
I'm happy and in a nice happy relationship for over a year.
He has since been married and separated ...(my friend is friends with him on fb)
Anyway last night I get a message
"Hi just wanted to clear the air and apologise how I treated you,hope your well"

Does he think I'm still crying over him 3 years later
The audacity !

He can’t even spell “you’re”. Lol
Ignore him. What a creep.

GCAcademic · 11/08/2022 17:22

"Don't give it a second thought; I certainly haven't, except for gratitude that I'm now in a far better relationship!"

Justanotherlovesong · 11/08/2022 17:35

Just don’t reply. Some of these examples are do cringey and will sound like you still have emotion for him. Silence speaks volumes.

Hira3 · 11/08/2022 17:39

Tell him to sling hes hook. Let him know hes no addition to you now. Why are you even giving him a second thought.

TokyoTen · 11/08/2022 17:51

Definitely fishing! Don't reply and block would be my advice.

Pinkjacket22 · 11/08/2022 18:14

Whichwhatnow · 11/08/2022 15:03

Sounds like he either wants an ego massage that you're still hung up on him, or is doing something like the AA ten-step programme which suggests that you contact all the people you've wronged to 'make amends'. Either way it's a selfish act to make himself feel better, not you, and I'd either ignore or text back a very breezy 'no worries!' or something then not engage further.

In the 12 step program most of these types of amends fall into the category of not doing them as to do them would cause further harm. I'm thinking ego boost as well.

Sidebrook · 11/08/2022 18:26

I would ignore and block. Serves him right!

Crucible · 11/08/2022 18:30

New phone - who dis?

PeppaPigIsAnnoying · 11/08/2022 18:51

Absolutely any form of reply is a bad idea, even an emoji

This best thing to do is to not reply, just block the number

SandyY2K · 11/08/2022 18:53

Ignore and block.

LadyEloise1 · 11/08/2022 19:32

Derbee · 11/08/2022 14:57

Ha! I’m great thanks. 😊

And then block

This. 💯

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