Does everyone have a best friend?

[pregmummy]

Just wondered if everyone (except me) has a best friend..? Has never particularly bothered me until recently but now am quite aware that i have noone i can call a B.F. Other people seem to talk about their b.f. quite alot and i cant do that.
I have a couple of long term good friends and quite a few mum friends and acquaintances - but when i have mentioned to people that i dont actaully have a b.f. they have thought it a bit strange. Do you?

So long as you have friends you can talk to I wouldn't worry. Nowadays friends and acquaintances change all the time, you go to them for different things and they come to you for different things and support I'm sure. Take care xx

Well, perhaps you only need to choose the one you get along better with and label her BF?

No- I don't have a best friend- like you I have a few long term friends and some mums from school.

I have a best friend and a few good friends.

Nope, I have quite a few very good friends but they are eachgood friends for a different reason,so eachof them is useful as a friends for different reasonsif that makes sense? No one perosn I know provides everything I'd want in a friend, I get bits from eahc of them and value them allin their own unique way.I don't think adults really have 'best friends' in the way children do.I certainly have moved apart from some of the friends I use to call best frineds when I was younger. I don't think it is 'strange' at all to no longer have a BF.

I am lucky. I have one best friend here in London, and 3-4 good friends here, and 4-5 good friends at home in Norway.

Haveing a best friend is maybe not essential to everyone, but I think the importance is on having friends, not a designated BF.

Pregmummy I dont think not having a best friend is strange, but it might be a bit strange to make a mention on it? Especially to those you consider friends? They might think you have considered your relationship and find it lacking?

agree with overmydeadbody. I have quite a few friends and all of them fufil a different "need" in me IYKWIM

I don't have a best friend but several really close friends.

I have a best friend - we have been friends since we were nine years old. We went to school and college together. We don't see each other every week or every month but we speak on the phone. We always speak to each other as if it was yesterday with our last conversation IYKWIM. She works full time (term time) and I work part time (term time) so we get together in the hols.

There are several other friends which I consider close.

I have two whom I call my 'Best friend', one is nearby, one is miles away...one newish, the other 15 years my friend.

I feel very lucky indeed.

(speaking as a person with no DH or boyfriend or DP...this is one thing I do have!!)

I don't have a lot of 'other' friends though.

On paper I have two BF's one I have known for 40 years, the other I have known for 23 years. Both of whom I speak to once a week, the 23 year one can be more than once a week. They are both in Ireland.

In theory however I would say that my BF is my friend across the road, who I can laugh with cry with etc., I take a long time to get to know people which is why the girl across the road is just creeping into BF status after 7 years. I am odd, I know I am.

I had two best friends, the three of us used to go to the pub etc all the time and chat about everything and anything. Then I got married, moved away & had children and I haven't seen either of them for two years. We do keep in touch but I don't know what our friendship would be like if we met up again.

I have a few people (about 6) I have grown up with that I can call very good friends but do not have one singe BF. Some are girls some are boys some live near me others don't.

I think the older you get the more you relaise the people who gre up with you and have seen you go through life are the ones that you really need to make an effort to keep.

I have two "best friends". We all met at primary school and were a tight little group of three until we left school. When we were about 21 they started to grow apart from each other but I stayed close to them both. Now we each live at least an hour away from each other and I am the only one who is married and the only one with a kid. Our lives are really different and I see them both a lot less than ever before. Sometimes I wonder whether it is still correct to call them by best friends as I have friends in my neighbourhood who I see on a daily basis and who know much more about my day to day life and my child. However, if anything terrible happens I know who I would call and who would immeditaley understand what to do for me. So I guess they are still be "best friends".

i have a best friend who is a man, and a gay best friend, who is also a man, but doesn't mind shopping for handbags

I have a few good friends and 1 best friend. We've been best friends since we were 6. She lives 500 miles away from me so we only see each other 3 or 4 times a year (she lives across the road from my mum and dad so that helps) but we talk on the phone every week for at least 2 hours and on msn almost every day. Also lots of emails and texts between us too.

No, I don't have a best friend or even close friends....just a few friends really. The best friend I did have passed away and I just cannot find anyone who even matches up to her and never will!

Can't say I have a best friend, I find it hard to make friends with people and feel a complete idiot at mums and tots standing like a lemon making small talk to people who do not want to give me the time of day. Although I must be getting better as my christmas card list to people I know that aren't family has gone up to 12 last year, that cheered me up.

I don't have a best friend. Don't think it bothers me.

I have a bf. I have always had one.
I had one at school , who lives in Asia and we still e-mail, once a year.
I think I really need one. My bf & I were at Uni together. And that was 15 years ago. After 4 years together she moved back to Devon. I live In Surrey. I love her and can't imagine my life without her. We speak all the time and meet atleast twice a year.
I think:
a) not everyone feels the need for a bf
b) it is becoming more normal, that not one friend fulfills all our needs,as 'Overmydeadbody' says - maybe that is a sign of our non committment to friendships, too busy with our own lives attitude, that we all slip into theses days, not sure.
Does it bother you that you don't have a bf? Don't worry.

i think i'm a best friend whore!
if i think back to all the 'best friends' that I've had over the years it's... nearly 10.
now i have a few close friends and one who i am the closest with. but don't actually label anyone as my BF. (probably because i'd be afraid that it wouldn't be reciprocated! )

My best friend is betterhalf Her dh is my dh's best friend - they all grew up together. I obviously met betterhalf when dh and I got married.

Although we live at opposite ends of the country we still keep in touch by text, phone or msn almost every day and see each other as often as we can.

Awww, and my best friend is you Gibberish!