Does everyone have a best friend?

[pregmummy]

Just wondered if everyone (except me) has a best friend..? Has never particularly bothered me until recently but now am quite aware that i have noone i can call a B.F. Other people seem to talk about their b.f. quite alot and i cant do that.
I have a couple of long term good friends and quite a few mum friends and acquaintances - but when i have mentioned to people that i dont actaully have a b.f. they have thought it a bit strange. Do you?

yeah, but hardly see them these days - always so busy - but are aware that we're both still around so no worries. if anything serious happens tho we do tend to drop everything at a moments notice to sort it out.

Erm don't know as I'd call her a 'best' friend (that would make me sound about 12} but, I do have a couple of very close friends. The sort who I could go to for anything and who I would gladly do anything for.

I have several "best friends" and they are equally best but for different times.

my gay best friend is my optimism

my sister is my past, present and future

my old house-mate is my handy-man and dd's favourite uncle

my old house-mate's wife is my rock, my parenting double and advisor and we are just so on the same page with everything in life (well done house-mate for choosing an excellent partner)

my evil twin is a million miles away and from a completely different phase of my life but still tuned into me and where i'm at.

my other best friends are other mums i've met and bonded with thru the becoming a mum.

top of the list is old house-mate and his wife and they are leaving for NZ in a couple of months.

until today i didn't really realise how devestated i will be when they are gone.

despite all the above, i still have times when i feel a bit lonely.

I don't use the term 'best' friend. I have two very dear and close friends and several fairly close/good friends.

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i met my best friend through mother and bay magazine, we started writing to one another when we were pregs, after babies where born we met, 9 years on i couldnt live without her, there nothing i dont talk to her about. i have also just moved to a new area so making new frinds and have been lucky enogh to make 2 realy good frinds and a few others i meet at playgroup every week.

My mum - she'll never let me down - I just wish I could have realised this years ago - I'm nearlly 40 and only really got close over the last few years after becoming a mum myself.

I have lots of very good friends. Guess there is one friend I would consider as a "best" friend but unfortunately she has moved further away now and we don't get to see each other as much as we used to. We do talk on the phone but don't see each other as much as I'd like - life seems to get in the way and we are both always so busy. Not good eh? Life is too short.
I would consider a best friend as someone who is there for you no matter what and someone who you can call in and visit and any time day or night for a cuppa and a chat. Unfortunately I don't feel that I can do that, all the meet ups I have with friends always seem to be pre-arranged.

I think you have different friends for different things.
That makes no sense does it, what I mean is I have a "deep and meaningful" friend, we (used to before we had babies!) stay up 'till the early hours pondering life, the universe and everything!
I have a "silly" friend, we act like five year olds when we are together.
I also have a "good time" friend for wild nights out...I struggle to remember them now though, roll on end of breastfeeding!
I love them all.
I wonder what "type" of friend I am?

also have few i would consider 'best' friends:

1 from school has known me forever - knows all my teenage indiscretions

2 from my course ao we talk work and jobs

3 from when ds was born and we bonded over all that first child stuff

4 from up the road who is on the same wavelength as me and i can see everyday if i need to

5 my mum

6 gay friend who is alwwys wonderful to me and lives too far away and is great for another perspective

I have one best best friend. We have known eachother since we were 10, went to school together, were eachother's bridesmaids, are eachother's child's godmother. She lives in England, I live in Australia and we talk at least once a month for at least an hour, sometimes two. We had such a fab long chat last night and when I came off the phone I felt so centred and relaxed and happy. She knows me like no other, there is nothing we can't say to eachother. Talking to her is like putting on a pair of favourite slippers ... I love her dearly.
As I seem to move around a lot I have developed a knack for meeting people and making friends - I am lucky, I have lots of friends and never have a problem meeting new people. But also I rarely have a chance to get that close to anyone (it takes time) - so that is what makes my best friend even more special, I can talk to her about stuff without explaining the background of everything, she knows it all ...
I do have two or three very very dear friends in NZ who I miss very much and talk to often but I am making some nice friends here in Aus too - too early to tell if I will become very close to any of them but we'll see ...

It's good to hear there's another one out there like me.

I gave up on 'best friends' when I was at school, because they always let you down in the end or are more trouble than they're worth.

I let off steam to my mum and have loads of friends that I spend time with and of whom I enjoy their company. I'm very loyal to them all, but put them all on the scales so that none of them dominate my time or energy over and above the other ones.

Some girls in the past have persued me as a best mate but it's always ended in disaster and I end up feeling let down and have been hurt.

I sometimes think I should have someone there I can share all my inner most feelings with, but I'm blessed with a big mouth and an open heart so just tell people what's on my mind anyway! The only people I tend to rely on is family.

Being like this has caused me problems as I need to choose a god mother soon for my DD, and I've nobody I'd like to ask! Same happened when I needed bridesmaids! Other than these sorts of situations, I like being free, sociable and wearing my heart on my sleeve with my companions.

Personally, I think you're better off this way (best friendless) as you're more independant and open to others.

My 'best friend' from school we drifted apart when we left school.

i would say my best friend now is my dp.
all my girl friends i wouldn't really call any one in particular my 'best friend'. Just close friends

me and my ds also tell eachother we are eachother's best friends

My friend from uni called me her best friend the other day and i thought that sounded about right

however, i see her only every couple of months and the mums i know who live near me probably know more about me and my daily life far better

so i dont think it is even possible for one person (other than your dp) to know everything about you, or be on your side about everything - it is probably healthier to have a range of friends

I have 4 best friends really, we all went to school/college together and all 5 of us are equally close, and would refer to each other as 'best friends'.

Couldn't choose between them. We're all so different. And we all need each other in different ways.

I have so many other friends, through work and being a mum, but those friendships are different. All very special. But something about growing up together and going through so much together is what makes my best mates 'best' - iyswim!

I would count my DH as my best friend, he knows everything there is to know about me and loves me anyway . I used to have a very close female friend, knew her since nursery, was godmum to her children, we were practically sisters. Sadly she turned into the bitch from hell when I met DH and had to audacity to want to spend time with him. She acted like we were married and I was having an affair with him . Sadly I had to break off all contact with her in the end. Its made me a bit wary of getting too close TBH

I do not
I enjoy the company of other women, some I can call friends. But I had my last best friend in university. He knew what I went through in my darkest moments, things that have shaped me. So when I meet new people I feel that they ought to know some of my past to get a better picture of me and to see who I really am. But most of the times I cannot be bothered to share or I'm afraid to give too much. So I stay in square 1.
Of course my husband is a great friend and I share rather a lot with him BUT he does not care about clothes, hair or shopping or girlie stuff.

No, I don't. Have 3-4 really, really close friends and a wider circle of good friends. But not the almost-a-sister type BF. Sometimes I feel sad that I don't, but those kind of friendships only happen when 2 soulmates happen to meet up. Each of my really close friends offer something different and I can't actually imagine those qualities all in one person.

I think you don't always know who your best friend is until something horrible happens - when this happened to me the very lovely hairtwiddler proved herself the best friend in the world!

It's been a very good day here at twiddler's house, and you've just made me tear up.
Best mates can produce huge bars of galaxy from their handbags even when they had no clue you would be upset!

I havent had a best friend since senior school. I have a few gud friends who i can talk to about different things. Some i'd go out with and get wasted with, some i meet up for the occasional coffee/lunch and small talk, but none of them i wud call a BF! So your definately not alone, as long as you have friends u can talk 2 thats all that matters.