Caught my partner commenting on a woman's body on Facebook

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Well more to the point a friend did and showed me. I laughed it off when I told him someone had showed me but inside I feel utterly disgusting and insecure
He was basically saying how 'hot' someone was - exact opposite to what I am, surgically enhanced very over sexualised etc
The killer is he's always maintained he doesn't like that type of woman 🙄
What do I do 😢

Wow, that is not very tactful of him to say that tbh.

I think he is everyone's go to. 😂

Have to wonder if men are so ‘ inclusive’ why so many of them seem to do this type of behaviour with the young ‘ hot ‘ ( their words ) women yet are seldom extend this ‘inclusiveness ‘ to women are go are 50plus (even though They themselves can be this age ) women who are overweight or lost their hair or have other obvious digressions from what is considered ‘beauty ‘ in their little minds etc . Sure their are ‘fetishes ‘ for these things but that’s why they are just that , ‘fetishes ‘ because the VASt majority of men get worked up over slim young porny look … hardly inclusive
Men judging womens appearance are the most judgemental, least inclusive group in existence. Sure , they will take hats available to USE for sex but if given the choice they will go for the younger and ‘hotter ‘ every time .

When a man feels inclined to comment on a social media account that they are 'hot' - it means they would probably shag them if given the opportunity. It really is quite disrespectful to the partner.

Yep exactly !

My DP can find whoever he wants attractive. However he needs to keep that to himself, theres a massive difference between him thinking it and publicly writing it on social media!!

That is so incredibly disrespectful to you OP. I'd be fuming. No way I would be laughing that off.

Did you confront him, OP?

I agree with every word of this @CamsPaisleyCuffs It is like wolf whistling in the street isn't it, and although I expect my partners to notice other women I absolutely do not want them to tell me (or letch/gawp). So disrespectful and insensitive

He’s embarrassed yourself not you !! I wouldn’t waste my time arguing with him, hold your head up high and be classy !! I wouldn’t necessarily break up over this unless he did it again !! As for the woman’s image he probably wouldn’t want to date her !!

• himself !!

Cover up the names and show us a screengrab OP….go on, do it.

add some context

@Discovereads

Most of your links are about the same study though and none of them are talking about 'hotness' , they are referencing women's apparent 'pickiness' in a dating situation. Not just about looks.

Him finding her hot isn't really the issue. It's publicly commenting online for everyone to see. I'd be embarrassed if that was my partner doing that. And then having a friend show you as well, that would add to the embarrassment. Is he 18? I'd definitely find that behaviour off-putting.

Most importantly, it's making YOU feel insecure and vulnerable. No one can tell you how you should or shouldn't feel. If that's how you feel then you're entitled to feel that way. And now you're always going to be having these little niggling doubts about yourself and about him. Get rid.

I'd screenshot it and post it all over social media, so other women can see what a pervert he is.