Absolutely dreading tomorrow. Just need a hand hold

[scarhead97]

Tomorrow is going to be awful ☹️
I know this will all sound really trivial but it’s only been 8 weeks since I was dumped by someone I thought I was going to grow old with. I adore him and still do. There’s been no contact since.

Tomorrow I am travelling to attend a wedding 6 hours away. I don’t really know anyone else at this wedding.

Me and my ex were meant to go together, travel up together. We were going to make a holiday of it as it’s in a beautiful location.

Tomorrow is also what was meant to be our one year anniversary. So was going to be a mini holiday celebration. We were so excited.

Now I’m going to be travelling up alone, for 6 hours in the car. Getting to the hotel on my own and being by myself at the wedding. None of my friends could get the time off work to come.
Not to mention that I’ll just be remembering the date, and what it was supposed to be ☹️

I’m absolutely dreading it and feel so lonely.

Oh OP I really feel for you, its so tough to do stuff on your own but honestly it's the bravest thing you can do and you'll be proud of yourself and glad you did when things feel easier - and I say that from experience. I bet your friend is so pleased you came as well.

Dont call him though, if you are going to speak at some point your head needs to be in the right place and I dont think it is today. Tell us what you'd say to him if you need to get it out or write it down/make a note on your phone but DONT CALL x

I wouldn't suggest contacting now....you've had an emotional day which will be clouding your judgement...how about sleeping on it and seeing how you feel tomorrow?

Don't forget he hasn't reached out to you in many, many weeks.....

I guess so it’s been 4 weeks no contact now :/

Don’t call him. Honestly, you don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t 100%, fully committed, want to be with you.

you’ve done it, you’ve got through the most difficult bit - it can only go upwards from here!

Have one more 🥂 (unless you’re staying off it) and maybe a slice of too.

@scarhead97 wow, great work getting through that! Can’t have been easy. It is wonderful you could be there for your friend, and you will feel better about all this eventually.

On the contact front, I promise you if he wants to be with you, he will contact you, so don’t contact him under any circumstances would be my advice. Even if that does happen you should think long and hard about whether you want that insecurity/doubt in your life. There have been people on here with husbands who blew hot and cold with them, breaking up a few times but then begging to get back etc, before the wedding and sadly let them down badly a few years into marriage, sometimes when they had young children. So please try to keep your wits about you, the decisions you make, the strength or weakness you show now, could have a big impact on your future happiness.
He has shown you who he is, he’s shown you how much he understands your worth (not much at all). You deserve better than this, and I bet that deep down you know it too. You will be glad this happened someday.

Doesn’t make it less sad now though💐

Just imagine it's a nice break just for you !

I'll come with you depending where you are in the country

How did it go, OP? How was the bride? Did the nice, new people bouy you along through the day? I hope you feel good that you were their for the bride and that the new people and party were a bit of fun after all, or that you were able to bow out gracefully and got over your upset okay.

Hey all. Thanks so much for all the lovely messages. I’m proud of myself for going. I had a pretty good time in the end, but a few wobbles (the speeches got to me, my ex used to say such lovely things to me).
If anything I feel worse now though. Made me realise I miss him and his family so much as I was so close to them :(
But I am proud of myself for going :) and thanks so much to you all! Xxx