I started dating someone a year ago. it's all going brilliantly, met each others friends and families, holidays together, talk of the future, no issues at all. We're both older and been around the block enough times to know what we want - neither of us are looking for anyone else. It's all exclusive commitment and all that. He says that what we've got is everything he's ever wanted and, tbh, I feel the same. I have no doubts about his feelings for me.
He was with his previous partner for 8 years. Never really lived with her and he kept his own flat.
They split up a few months before we got together and she sadly died a couple of months after. He is still friends with her kids (now mid/late 20s) on fb.
I'm aware this is going to sound a bit ridiculous but if you could bear with me...
There is very little of us 'publicly'. He shared loads of photos with her on SM, all the public 'In a relationship' statuses etc. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not bothered about it because I want public declarations but he has his relationship status public and he changed it to 'single' when they split up. After a year of being with me, it still says 'single'.
Tbh, I'd absolutely hate a big public X is in a relationship with Y statement but it does make me feel uncomfortable that his profile actively, and publicly, states that he is single.
He doesn't share photos of us, or even really take photos of us/me, yet, when they were together, particularly during the good years, there were a lot. I know this, not through snooping, but because I knew them both for a few years and often liked/commented on them. And, when we are together, he gets memories of posts he made featuring her weekly.
I don't think for a second he is doing it because he wants to appear single but I wonder if he wants to be sensitive to her children who would see it. Maybe. I don't know. He doesn't object if I tag him in a post somewhere but he doesn't do it himself.
Again, it's not that I particularly want it, more that it's out of character/a change in behaviour for him.
I don't know whether to mention it more to get an idea of where his head is than anything else.
What should the balance be between my feelings and the feelings of her adult children? Bearing in mind there is no ongoing relationship between them.
There are also things like she still has an account linked to his Netflix. I understand it's because he wants it to still be available to her children if they want. But it feels like I'm living in her shadow and not quite living up to it maybe?
It was his choice to end their relationship because he hadn't been happy for a couple of years.
This isn't a Facebook issue, per se, more that that is the vehicle by which it feels there are a few inconsistencies.
Is this even worth broaching? And, if so, how?