I feel like DH and I have come to a crossroads in our relationship and we either seek help going forward or separate. We have 2 DC so separating is something I have wanted to avoid but after many conversations about our problems and no change ive honestly had enough.
In order to not drip feed i will explain our main issues. After a traumatic pregnancy with DD, who is now nearly 8, we knew we didnt want more children. We discussed DH going for a vasectomy, to which he at first agreed to. Years have gone by since then and he has made every excuse in the book to not have it done, even when my method of contraception cause bad mental health and had to be stopped. We are now using just condoms, which i feel is very risky and get anxiety from.
Our other issue is i am left at home alone with DC most evenings. The majority of evenings it is because DH is working, but when he is off he spends his time either out at sports with his friends or out drinking. I honestly cant remember the last time he suggested we did something together. He just doesnt seem to want to. I used to suggest we do things but i got sick of being the only one suggesting/organising anything.
He's a great dad, and if I'm honest we make a good team, but as a wife i feel totally neglected.
So my question, does couple counselling work? Do i just accept this is my life, or do we split up?