Just that really. My ex broke up with me in an email about six weeks ago. We’d been together over two years. He treated me horribly in the lead up to the break-up. It was as if he hated me even thought I hadn’t done anything wrong. We hadn’t fought or argued. After the break up I realised he’d been treating me really badly for a really long time. I just kept blaming myself for the issues. He just acted as though I wasn’t good enough for him. Was rude to me in front of his friends. Went on holidays with friends but not me. We’re both in our 30s. He’d stop speaking to me/give me the cold shoulder if I did anything he didn’t want me to do. Kept implying he might have to break up with me at some point in the future. But at the same time he wanted to spend nearly all his time with me to the point where it was difficult for me to plan things with anyone else. We saw his family and friends all the time but never mine. He told me he didn’t have doubts about us when we were together but when we were apart he thought we might not work out.
His break up email was all about him. Now he’s sent me another email also all about him and how difficult and complicated it’s been for him and how if I ever need anything I should contact him because he still cares for me a lot and will always care about me. He apologised for dumping me in an email because ‘we’ deserved better. I’m angry and want to tell him how self absorbed he is but I don’t know if this will just make me feel worse. Is it always best to ignore this kind of email from an ex?