My DP doesn’t have dc (not through choice, he always wanted them). I have 2 dc, they are 10 and 13. We’ve been together 18months. We were careful to slowly introduce, the dc like him, we’ve don’t days out, overnights, a weekend away and just did a week holiday.
DP has struggled on occasion because as he says, he’s just not used to dc. He doesn’t feel he is able to ‘parent’ them, and finds it really hard when they are stroppy/moody/whingy as all dc are at some point on holidays 😁
We went away with another family who have dc (although mostly grown up now) and they reassured me that my dc are normal, lovely but just as whingy as all kids their age, removed from their PlayStation/Wi-Fi 😂. The weather wasn’t great either so lots of spending time in small space together.
He’s not criticising my parenting or my kids. He is trying really hard. Any advice on how we navigate this?
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TorviShieldMaiden · 05/08/2022 14:20
TorviShieldMaiden · 05/08/2022 16:36
Tbh I’ve always worried that my dc are worse than others, even when I go away with friends and their dc (before DP was in the picture.) I actually think ex planted that seed- he was always comparing our dc to others.
Thanks for the advice. I think their ages are already difficult, the 13 he old was particularly stroppy, storming off and refusing to do stuff. And the usual declaring that they are bored every 2 mins.
TorviShieldMaiden · 05/08/2022 16:39
I didn’t mention their sexes or her autism, so that’s a bit weird?
But no actually. He does find it hard, but understands. I think he found my older dc more challenging this week.
TorviShieldMaiden · 05/08/2022 16:43
Yes it’s relevant. I didn’t want to make my OP too complicated.
I agree that it’s rude. They were particularly bad this week and I was fed up of them. I would have been angry at their behaviour regardless of DP being there.
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