My DP doesn’t have dc (not through choice, he always wanted them). I have 2 dc, they are 10 and 13. We’ve been together 18months. We were careful to slowly introduce, the dc like him, we’ve don’t days out, overnights, a weekend away and just did a week holiday.
DP has struggled on occasion because as he says, he’s just not used to dc. He doesn’t feel he is able to ‘parent’ them, and finds it really hard when they are stroppy/moody/whingy as all dc are at some point on holidays 😁
We went away with another family who have dc (although mostly grown up now) and they reassured me that my dc are normal, lovely but just as whingy as all kids their age, removed from their PlayStation/Wi-Fi 😂. The weather wasn’t great either so lots of spending time in small space together.
He’s not criticising my parenting or my kids. He is trying really hard. Any advice on how we navigate this?
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TorviShieldMaiden · 05/08/2022 14:20
TorviShieldMaiden · 05/08/2022 16:12
He absolutely does want them, he’s always wanted children but couldn’t have them. I’ve actually said I would understand if he wanted to walk away and he said he doesn’t. It’s just that he isn’t used to being around children and is finding it hard.
TorviShieldMaiden · 05/08/2022 16:12
He absolutely does want them, he’s always wanted children but couldn’t have them. I’ve actually said I would understand if he wanted to walk away and he said he doesn’t. It’s just that he isn’t used to being around children and is finding it hard.
TorviShieldMaiden · 06/08/2022 14:39
Perhaps you’re right. I will of course put my children first. I will also be heartbroken, I love him and it’s the best and healthiest adult relationship I’ve ever had.
I am going to address my dc behaviour, because it was particularly bad this week.
MrsOwainGlyndŵr · 06/08/2022 15:26
What if he took the kids out by himself now and again, so he could start to forge his own relationship with them without you being around? Would he do that?
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