Had a shit date

[LonelyInAutumn]

He told me he was coming to pick me up at the agreed time but showed up one hour later, I told him I didn't appreciate it as I felt my time was disrespected. I went anyway as I thought the evening would improve. Found out he was an hour late as he "had" to stop off for some weed. On top of this, he was driving erratically.

He's texted asking if I want to meet again. I know what I want to say but not sure how to say it without being nasty about it.

I would text saying that you enjoyed meeting him but you did not feel a romantic connection. This is the go to excuse every time.

Just a simple "thank you but no, take care" will do it

Or if you want to hint at it "I don't feel out lifestyles are aligned" should put him off

If he knows where you live, keep it kind like pp have suggested.

"I don't think we're a good match. Good luck to you!"

Then BLOCK immediately.

We are not compatible, thank you for a nice evening though.

Then block.

Just say a polite no thanks and just don’t ever get someone to pick you up from your house. I am hoping he picked you up from outside a neutral place. It’s far better to just meet them at the intended bar, restaurant, coffee shop or wherever surely?

He picked me up on my street but I walked from my house to his car. I live on a pretty busy street so always people about. Also took a photo of his reg just incase. I did text him politely and blocked him as suggested

Was this a first date? Don’t get in a car with a stranger for goodness sake 🤦🏻

Who in your life has brainwashed you into thinking you should care about this fuckwits feelings? Why would you bother to say anything to this loser?

No need to worry, shan't be happening again

Tbf, in my eyes, I just felt that ghosting would have been rude so I just wanted to at least communicate that I wasn't into it

There you are again... WHY do you care so much if he thinks you're "rude?" He's an absolute twat. Stop putting the feelings of losers above your own. Stop being a mug.

🤷🏽‍♀️ I think because I've been ghosted before and it's not a nice feeling. Well, it's done now and I haven't wasted any time. I appreciate what you are saying though

I agree with Trying20, it’s surely a nicer world where people communicate about such things directly. Ghosting seems rather rude and immature to me.

Have you been ghosted before though because you showed up late and stoned? I agree with Aqua, I wouldn't have even replied.

Just a polite ‘No, not interested in anyone with addiction issues’. Block number and delete.

A man was late to your shit date and then stopped off to get weed?

and you are worried about looking ‘nasty’?

you owe this man nothing. Toughen up

Frankly why worry about someone who turns up late due to by
buying drug's, that they have probably taken so are driving illegally. Does not sound like a good catch so well done for not progressing it

I think you did exactly the right thing in being polite. It’s horrible to be ghosted as you know, not that he exactly sounds like the sensitive type but you never know

I agree.

Thanks for your comments guys. I texted him last night and blocked him. I agree, he doesn't sound like the sensitive type. On a positive note, I did have a great date the week before and he was the exact opposite to this

Good on you for throwing this one back. I believe that manners cost nothing and a brief 'no thanks' text is simply drawing a neat line under things, not pandering to the feelings of someone who has been less than courteous.

Yes this is how I look at it. I feel like being polite is more for my benefit than for them, I didn't feel that it was pandering either.