Had a shit date

[LonelyInAutumn]

He told me he was coming to pick me up at the agreed time but showed up one hour later, I told him I didn't appreciate it as I felt my time was disrespected. I went anyway as I thought the evening would improve. Found out he was an hour late as he "had" to stop off for some weed. On top of this, he was driving erratically.

He's texted asking if I want to meet again. I know what I want to say but not sure how to say it without being nasty about it.

You’re more polite than I would have been. He would have got ‘I don’t date drug users’ from me. End of.

but not sure how to say it without being nasty about it.

Thank you, no thank you.

Don't fash yourself about this stuff Dating is much easier when you keep your boundaries really tight. One slip and they are out.

Simples.

I think you know the answer here so unless you want to be lumbered with a pot head looser then I suggest you get rid

I have mentioned already in my previous post that I've already got rid

Chalk it up to experience and move on - lucky escape

being polite is more for my benefit than for them

Fair enough, but you can be polite and clear, without worrying about it too much.

Thanks but no thank you.

Thank you, no.

We are not compatible, so I won't be meeting you again. All the best.

Pick any one but don't give any more headspace to someone who is so disrespectful as to turn up an hour late and stoned.

Did you not get a feel for him being a loser before going on a date? Job/lifestyle, the way they speak, written or verbally.
The clues are always there I find, try being very picky.

Honestly, no. He spoke about his current work and what he was aiming for in the future, communication was fine and we had a good laugh. I can usually pick out losers via text but I guess he was being more lowkey about it. Tbf, I'm not hung up on it at all, I think I was more shocked really

An hour late!!!! No way I would have even bothered!! I would have messaged after 10 minutes and said if your not here in half an hour then don’t bother! Then I’d have got back into my comfies with a nice glass of wine and a big fuck you.

Why are you worrying about what I might think about you?

The guy was rude (being late) and displayed some really questionable behaviour (buying weed). You should simply block him and have nothing more to do with him. People like this require no explanation.

I always try to be polite but when someone behaves in this way they don't deserve any more of my time or a even a polite message.

I know what I want to say but not sure how to say it without being nasty about it.

I would be making my feelings known and not holding back at all
@LonelyInAutumn

'Hmm you turned up an hour late and have just told me you drove a car u was in, stoned. Of course I don't want a selected date you total fucking wankek. Lose this number'

*I was in
*wanker

He’s probably oblivious: a stoner maybe with other issues.

A polite no costs nothing and draws a clear line under it.

(though personally I would not meet a man next to my home or get in a car with him; simple safety precautions cost nothing).

Good luck on future dating!