Reading all these threads as a late 30s woman I am at my wits end as to what to do. I considered IVF but it’s not just the cost of that it’s the cost of childcare etc later on. My closest friend admitted to me she had been lax with contraception and now is paid 945 a month although the ex isn’t around she is happy for him to see her child and doesn’t stop it. She says it’s enabled her to carry on her career as all childcare is covered and she likes the fact her child has a dad she can identity when they’re older even if he’s not around. She said she knew the maintenance was a risk but her ex was fundamentally focused on work and kept talking about kids but not doing it…she then spent 6 months tiptoeing round him (her words) while he got ready for promotion and she had just had enough of her side of things being on the back burner.
I know I’m feeling desperate so I’m grasping at anything but I too am in a similar relationship. Being fed similar lines, we often don’t have eve together as he’s back so late, it’s all about him and his job. Yet I’m 39 in December and waited for what? I’ve considered Ivf and told him that and he just shrugs it off like I’m not serious. I have money for it but it’s all my savings pretty much. Just so low.